Dating after a certain age

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  • shapesalad-5

    1) Withholding sex
    2) Withholding fun
    3) Withholding affection and approval
    4) Being very controlling
    5) Trying to change your husband
    6) Being moody and emotionally volatile
    7) Demeaning men's activities
    8) Get them to open up their feelings and insecurities, then use those against them
    9) Mothering your husband
    10) Treat them like they don't have feelings and dismiss their emotions

    • Sorry your going through that. But you know you can always leave and go to Guinea Bissaupango
    • Since it's abundantly clear you can't make a woman happy, I suggest you try it with men. You might have better luck.Continuity
    • My wife is 0 for 10 on this list... I married a literal angel, tho.PonyBoy
    • ^ I don’t know about that, pony - When you told your fire story in the blog, sounds like you left her behind! You got the dog, though :)Gnash
    • haha!! She was already at work. <3PonyBoy
    • ;)Gnash
    • Faden 11 - It's actually 4 years apparently she told me! feels like five lolnecromation
  • necromation2

    Oh, i know it's a tired trope... Get fit! The way women look at me now is waaaay different, I can't say I was ugly and I never really had any issues finding partners but it was usually a very different effort... Now I've completely changed my appearance thru just training and taking more care of my health, I'm still in a happy relationship of 5 years but now when I go out with mates I can guarantee i get hit on by at least one woman, it feels super weird and almost outta body, it's a nice confident boost but i know what i got at home awesome :)

    • *is awesomenecromation
    • you get hit on by women? where do you live? usually women don't hit on a guy no matter how hot he is as they expect the men to make first moveNBQ00
    • Where is this land of women who are constantly hitting on middle aged men?!HAYZ1LLLA
    • < Thailand_niko
    • < Guinea-Bissau.shapesalad
    • < Ukraine.zardoz
    • May also be because you are not looking and just relaxing with your friends you get hit on. You send out a different vibe.Nutter
    • Combination of being fit, and what Nutter says. Fit, chill, and living in the present with your mates? That sort of person is irrisistable, men or women.Continuity
    • No wonder you're getting flitered with, necro!

      Take notes, NBQ00.
      Continuity
    • Also, do dispense with the PUA bullshit about women expecting men to make the first move, NBQ00. Real life isn't an Andrew Tate video. God.Continuity
    • Also-also, *flirted withContinuity
    • < Epstein Islandutopian
    • is this the Russian model you mentioned below 3 years ago?fadein11
    • I've got a friend who is the absolute bullseye of female desire. We'll meet in a pub for a chat and women will start wandering over asking if knows...Horp
    • where the toilets are, or what brand of beer they should try, or what the time is whilst wearing a watch and holding a mobile phone. They queue up to ask stuff.Horp
    • Horp, is he a male top model?NBQ00
    • < Alabama - his mom..hydro74
    • I noticed something similar not long after i got married... there's a confidence and relaxation that goes along with marriage. women 'sense' that you're notexador1
    • desperate, or 'looking' or hitting on them etc, and that can be attractive. Also, there's the sense that if someone else thought you were worthexador1
    • 'taking off the market' that maybe you're worth looking into. Also, at our age in life success, or atleast comfortableness can be very attractive.exador1
    • a buddy of mine for the past 30 years or so is a pretty successful black dude. Works in marketing for big banks etc. When we were young dads, he and his wife,exador1
    • and me and mine took a trip to New Orleans. as we walked through town, both of us pushing strollers with our kids etc, maaaaaaan, the looks he got.exador1
    • handsome, black, well dressed, and a good dad???? it was like they were pushing his wife out of the way to chat him up lol...exador1
    • I think at 50 (me) at this point its likely the fact that i'm still slim, dress decent, and after 30 years with my wife, am not 'on the prowl'... so it givesexador1
    • off the 'i'm safe' vibe i suppose....exador1
    • I've been hit on few times by women before. Only to realise it yrs later lolpango
    • Guys take note: The women of little talked about country Guinea-Bissau are looking to get their pussies stretched. They'll do almost anything for a western visashapesalad
    • I've already been on a sortie there and managed to bang a decent amount. I only picked up a couple STDs but it was worth it.shapesalad
    • Are you on a quest to collect all kind of STDs?pango
    • So you've gone and managed to pick yourself up some syphillis, eh, shapesalad? It would certainly explain your brain-rot.Continuity
    • You know that someone is a Virgil when they start bragging about 'stretching pussies' of desperate girls in developing countries.canoe
    • I wish my Latin was good enough to be called a Virgil, canoeGnash
    • In most western countries chances of getting hit on by women is slim even if you're handsome. On the other hand women start complaining why they never get...NBQ00
    • ...hit on anymore. Couple women told me already.NBQ00
    • @pango you mean hit by a few women (not hit on) ;)NBQ00
    • ya by them
      https://i.imgur.com/…
      pango
    • LOL Shapesalad will chime into any conversation to talk about visa desperate foreigners. Sad little man.HAYZ1LLLA
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  • NBQ00-1

    • The problem is, after you exhausted your friends network, co workers etc, been to some meetups with odd bods, where else are you to meet anyone?shapesalad
    • You may well see an attractive to you lady while out and about, but if you dare to approach they respond ‘I have a bf’.shapesalad
    • Plus in my area of London 75% of the women I see in my neighborhood, at the supermarket etc are covered in a black bed sheet. Can’t even see their face.shapesalad
    • I actually met a bunch of very cool women on Bumble a few years ago (in NYC). But I would chat very briefly and if there was any connection meet in personhardhat
    • Shape, they’re covered in bed sheets and you’re complaining? You’re half way there buddy!futurefood
    • I don’t think your biggest dating hurdle is the “black bed sheets”, ya racist fuckscarabin
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  • necromation3

    Split from a long term relationship of 12 years - We just ended up becoming more flatmates and will remain friends...|

    But now i got myself a Russian model (no,not a mail order one!) and genuine super kind soul. Oh i'm 46

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  • ApeRobot2

    I do respect all woman, sex worker included.
    Why is it "gross", i don't see a difference between them, they are still women.

    They had sex with other man, so what? i'm not looking for a virgin. I'm looking for someone with skills. Ahahahaha.

    I don't need someone to fulfill my life, i like being single.
    But i like sex, i think i got better things to do in life than chasing girls expecting to have sex.

    Because let's be honest guy's, sex is what we want right?

    So, in my situation, why should i spend time and money trying indirectly to convince a woman to have sex with me.

    Let's cut the middle man, pay, be kind, and do whatever you wilt. (with respect of course)

    I'm against female exploitation.
    And again, i'm just thinking out loud.

    • I'd hazard a guess that the majority of sex workers wouldn't be in that game if they had better options. So it's 100% exploitation.mort_
    • Why exploitation? Two consenting adults, and one gets payed. Lot's of people do shit jobs because they don't have better options.ApeRobot
    • I personally see no problem with that if that's what you want then go for it. Is prostitution legal where you live?zarkonite
    • lots of girls in it for sugar daddies, there's even a site i belive, so yeah fair exchange as far as the girls are concerned probably and the girls are just as_niko
    • ...exploitative._niko
    • but yeah as mort said i'm sure the majority are being exploited, not sure the percentage._niko
    • We’re all being exploited by somebodyscarabin
    • "I do respect all woman, sex worker included." Is this a Trump quote?imbecile
    • The attitude and language. Be kind. Be safe.jtb26
    • I definitely think it should be legal and that countries like Germany, Netherlands etc have the right approach. Just like with drugs...when you buy drugs offyuekit
    • the street you are almost certainly enabling exploitation and violence somewhere in the world, but buying from a dispensary or coffee shop that's not the case.yuekit
    • Less clear with prostitution though since even in countries where it's legal there is still some coercion and human trafficking that goes on behind the scenes.yuekit
  • ApeRobot1

    Fuck that dating bullshit.
    I just want to fuck, i do not care about the rest.

    So, instead of wasting my time messaging girls, go on a few dates eventually, that might "maybe" lead to sex.

    Which might not be "great sex".

    I realised how much effort, money and time it takes for pore results and the bullshit following.

    So, instead i might go for escort girls.

    Think about it for a second......It cost the same amount of money, sexually there is no arguing, you can do whatever the fuck you want and you're seing her just for that.

    You can leave whenever you want, and change whenever you want.

    And all this without the bullshit.

    So, why "dating"?

    • i haven't tried yet, it's just a thought. :)ApeRobot
    • dating presumes mutual respect and desire to possibly one day improve one another's lives. what you've described is a selfish need to masturbate using a vagina.imbecile
    • Haven't been single in over a decade, but I thought Tinder was for that. Have you had pore results there?whatthefunk
    • I’ve never had the need or desire to hire an escort but if you think about it, like aperobot says, it could be a good alternative to dating._niko
    • What if you really like sex but are shy? What if you treat the escort well and make sure her needs are met? What if she enjoys the company and attention?_niko
    • I've been doing the casual thing/ FWB for a while, many years now. It does work. As long as you're upfront from the start that you just want sex...NBQ00
    • What if you treat her with respect? What if it’s like a great date or relationship for one night without the added baggage or drama? It could be a win-win_niko
    • There are far more exciting things then women in life, get working on a crypto bot: https://www.trality.… far more exciting than rubbing groins.shapesalad
    • Funny how people still use this euphemism escort. Where is she escorting you to?yuekit
    • please wear a mask though, and a johnnyfadein11
    • Dental dams all arandNairn
    • I'm single for 3 years now. I've been in a love relation for 18 years, got a kid, a house and so on. Nowadays all i want from women is sex.ApeRobot
    • I don't despite relationship, i'm just sayin it's not for me anymore.ApeRobot
    • Those apps are time consuming, i've tried with succès, but getting them to bed was also time consuming. Even if i'm always straight to the point from day one.ApeRobot
    • and also, it cost money. diner, drinks etc...ApeRobot
    • ..and most of the time , sex is not great.
      On the other hand, prostitutes are the sex "pro", so should be a win win situation. :-)
      ApeRobot
    • I couldn't imagine eating the ass of someone who's had it pumped full of 20 other punter's cum that week.Nairn
    • Fulfilling your base level evolutionary desires at the expense of the mental health of another human is as morally corrupt as it gets, IMO.mort_
    • Have a wank in private and just try not to harm other people.mort_
    • i v.dislike the whole sex industry thing, but many in it don't, and if they want to, then good luck to them. There's a lot of horrid shit out there also.Nairn
    • Sounds like you maybe need to speak to a therapist rather than a design forumDaveO
    • Nothing wrong with it in theory. The trouble is, how do you figure out there's no exploitation involved?yuekit
    • @ape i get what you're saying. i have a friend that went your way. i am at a point in life when i either fuck or marry. no killing yet. fuck dating.renderedred
    • This is gross. And not because it discusses sex work.jtb26
    • @ape. I don’t think you’ll find what you’re looking for down that road.Gnash
    • Gnash is probably right, maybe work on getting a FWB arrangement? but those could also end up messy._niko
    • "nowadays all I want from women is sex". Woof.garbage
    • Tactic: We are going to have sex eventually, might as well get it over with and see if we like it.Hayoth
    • What's funny about this is that you probably outlined a thought that most guys have had, but when you put it down in words it looks gross and worryingDaveO
    • Mentally count three strikes during the date, then pull the rip cord and leave. “This isnt what im looking for.”
      “Why?”
      *explain each strike*
      cannonball1978
    • Only losers think about sexi_was
    • Anyone whose being overly judgement is the same person who cant admit to master bating.brothernoah
    • *mastURbatingjagara
  • nb-3

    This really has little to do with age except that maybe we’re more likely to meet trans people as we get older? Maybe?

    Anyway... interesting topic:

    YES, YOU’RE STILL STRAIGHT IF YOU DATE TRANS WOMEN

    https://www.playboy.com/read/yes…

  • sea_sea7

    forget the age. try dating during a fkn pandemic.

  • BusterBoy4

    Was just watching some old home videos on the weekend. I've always thought and still think my wife is hot...but after watching some early footage..man she was smoking hot when she was young. No idea how I landed her.

    As I said before, I'd be fucked if I had to date again.

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