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- shellie0
I ghosted someone I was seeing. I couldn't bare to tell him why I wasn't interested.
1) He was a flat eather for real (weird someone else posted something similar) but I couldn't get over it. I thought he was an idiot for that. After he really tried to defend that, a lot of other things he has said that I might have let slide sounded rediculous and rang in my head. The lack common sense was actually offensive.
2) One day I thought he ghosted me. He did not. After a date we had he ended up really sick and in the hospital and had half of his intestine removed. Long story short, he has a colostomy bag now. I tried, really tried, to hang with him again after that. But, it really grossed me out. I couldn't get over that either. Our relationship wasn't really a relationship to begin with at that point just a few casual dates and I couldn't stick with it. But, I feel a little guilty. I know hes going to have a much harder time dating now and everyone deserves happiness. He's fairly young (early 30s) and having to shit in a bag is unfortunate.
I'm not sure what really did it for me, point 1 or point 2. Probably point 1 but point 2 didn't help. I just left him on read for eternity. His last text, "Are you ghosting me?" actually triggered the for real ghosting. At first I just meant to give myself some space to think. But, when I read that text I said to myself, "Yes, that is definately what im doing." I may apologise after some time. But, I don't want to date him anymore even if I do speak to him. We have no mutual friends or work in the same field. Just someone way out of network I met on an app. Sometimes things just don't work out. Does it really need an explanation?
- *earthershellie
- i would do the same thing.pango
- however id send a simple text in few days "ya... this is not gonna work out"pango
- It's been over a month now pang. I feel le its possible he's completely forgotten about me and reaching out would be worse/triggering. What you think?shellie
- point 1 is infinitely worse. you could have lived with #2, shit happens._niko
- I see what you did there niko.shellie
- ;)_niko
- oooof ya passed the point of no return. let's hope you don't run into him on the street. and or that you have the endurance for awkwardness.pango
- That would be like ruining into him in times square when you live in queens. Unlikely. We didn't hang in the same places or live near each other. Thnk god!!shellie
- It is better you did an Irish exit early on, he's got bigger concerns and it's healthier he focus on the future ;)robotron3k
- Not fan of ghosting, but to be with someone just out of pity is worse. It's best for both to end itdrgs
- Don't date flat Earthers, but don't ghost people either. Too late now, but a simple 'it's not working for me' is better than a ghost. No judgement :)sarahfailin
- "I'm a flat earther" would had me running out the door before finishing his next sentence.hotroddy
- red flag. suspended indefinitely.hotroddy
- don't feel bad about ghosting. flat earthers should be used to it.hotroddy
- He actually tried to make his case with like hr long YouTube videos. I had to put my foot down & stay stop. HE said "You really like when i shut up." Uhm, yes!shellie
- Flat earth is the dumbest unlikely and expensive conspiracy for no fucking reason. Give me a break!shellie
- He deserves the respect to hear "it's not working out"Hayoth
- Aside from basic science, it makes zero sense even if science as we know it was wrong. I literally cannot get on board.shellie
- You're right haygoth. Its probably the meanest thing I've ever done. Im riddled with guilt. At this point im worried about making him feel worse.shellie
- How hot was this guy that you continued to date him after you found out he was a "flat earther"??????fooler
- @fooler That part unfolded slowly. That was basically our last date before he ended up in the hospital. I probably never would have seen him again after that bushellie
- when he called me from the hospital, I was kinda shocked and sad for him. So, I let him come over one more time because he was finally able to be outside movingshellie
- around and he said he just wanted to feel normal for a minute. :(shellie
- 1 text - "roses are red, voilets are blue
The world is fucking round, yes I'm ghosting you'dee-dubs - ^lol. simple and to the point.hotroddy
- he made people watch hr long youtube video LOL. best idea anyone ever had.pango
- Can't date a flat earther. There's no future in it. Imagine being at a party five years in and the subject comes up. You'll hate your lifenb
- ghosting is childish. Just text him you're sorry but not interested and THEN don't reply anymore eversrhadden
- Are there really that many Flat Earthers out there? I'm kind of amazed more than one of you have had this experience...yuekit
- Let him know that you can’t date somebody so incredibly stupid they can’t accept the fact that we live on a planet. He can live with that.monospaced
- And a colostomy bag is a deal breaker. Don’t feel bad about that. He isn’t too idiotic to know that is disgusting.monospaced
- Hayoth seems to know as much about relationships as he does communism (literally nothing at all), so I wouldn’t give his input any weight at all.monospaced
- This sounds to me like you ghosted him out of disgust, not out of disagreement.cannonball1978
- You ghosted him.
Now his bag is filling with rage
Mostly shit, but now with ragefuturefood - Mono-- I don't know what's worse - being a flat earther or defending communismhotroddy
- lol... from colostomy bags to communism... this post delivers!PonyBoy
- wait... so if I believe the world is round and I don't have a colostomy bag I might have a chance to date you? Sweet!fooler
- hotroddy, worse is the guy who calls people communists when they aren’t, and worse than that is the one who thinks people are defending itmonospaced
- Because there are no communists here or in our government or really anywhere in this country, and nobody is defending it. That’s you and hayoth 100% making it umonospaced
- flat earther is enough.autoflavour
- Posting this here was the right choice. A colostomy bag full of rage? You're getting coal for Christmas @futurefood. Welcome to the club.shellie
- And by coal, I'm talking about Trump's coal. Big lumps shaped like T and covered in gold foil wrap.shellie
- set?mekk
- Colostomy bag isn't a death sentence - there are people who will look past that.ben_
- So he'll be fine.ben_
- oh wait, he's a flat-earther. he's fucked.ben_
- Shellie, maybe he just wanted to get rid of you. And when the flat earth thingy didn't work he got his intestine removed.NBQ00