RIP of the day
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- PhanLo10
Went to a funeral of an old school friend today, I hadn't seen her in years, but we were close at school and occasionally bumped into her.
She'd spent a lot of her adult life on heroin, had two children taken off her into care and also lost a child before it was born.
Speaking with another friend who took her in for a year when we were at school, I found out her home life as a kid was super chaotic, lots of drunk parents and violence.On the way into the church a fight nearly broke out with her old boyfriend and the family, it made the whole event even sadder hearing a guy shout 'you's cunts never fuckin cared about her' literally on the steps of the church.
Her family were quite mental so there was no shortage of people jostling to batter the emaciated ghost, but thankfully it never led to actual violence.Over the years I've been to a lot of funerals for addicts and one of the saddest things is seeing that how the breakdown in their relationships leads to so few people turning up to remember them.
One guy I knew as a teenager didn't even have his parents turn up, because he'd stole so much from them over the years. It was just his grandmother.The saddest part was she'd actually been clean for a year, but she died a week after her mums funeral possibly from heart failure.
I'll remember when she was happy
- <3PonyBoy
- One of my cousins was an addict for 30 years, stealing from family and all that. He died in a city park, alone, in a city where he had no family.nb
- Another cousin died at 19 of the same thing: accidental or intentional opioid OD. The 19yo’s funeral was far more sad and full of people.nb
- It’s like that. One is considered a tragedy and the other is like “well what did he expect.”nb
- Troubled hearts leave a wake. My condolences.garbage
- @nb yep, have had similar experiences, a good friend OD'd after choking to death after mixing heroin and beer at 19. Churchwas full with people standing outsidePhanLo
- But 10 years on and another friend from the same group, I think there was barely 20 people therePhanLo
- Love is conditional. You must love yourself first.cannonball1978
- Sorry Phan. I can relate.lemmy_k
- Sounds like a harrowing experience, my condolences Phan. For the friends I've lost I try to remember the happy times too, the sad times just bring back the painBuddhaHat
- Sort to hear phanthumb_screws