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- jevad
I just don't seem to be any good at them really. I poison every one eventually, given time. Am I destined to be a bachelor forever - and is this a bad thing?
- flavorful0
Born alone, die alone.
- Noreaga
- 7340
the main thing you have to understand is its a 2 way street... you have to do for the other to make her happy, but she is supposed to do the same for you.
maybe you have to ask yourself why were you with the people you were with? sex is not an answer and neither is, 'well its better than being alone'
- OneNine0
best thing to do is make sure you each have your own lives outside of eachother - ive been with this girl for about 7months now, see her about twice a week (we're both busy with work and whatever else) and honestly have not had one fight yet - and we're both real happy with the situation
- Studiospooky0
Okay, how about "Well, its better than being alone.... and sex too" which is the sort of combo-deal of 2 above?
- Erp,,, three above.Studiospooky
- you love picking on me, haha. did you see the whilkshire thread yet?734
- Yeah. Go-Go-Gadget-Gmail-C...Studiospooky
- too many hyphens. GogoGadgetGmailCheck... is what I said.Studiospooky
- CHECKER. CHECKER. QBN MOTHER FUCKERS TRIMMING MY POSTS LIKE THAT?Studiospooky
- gramme0
You are either living primarily for yourself or something/someone else. Maybe consider what your motives are – if you're just taking without giving selflessly, then I think relationships could continue to fall apart for you.
DON'T take this as condemnation – I'm not making any assumptions about you, just suggesting taking a personal inventory. And, it might be possible that you didn't give yourself enough time to heal after the marriage fell apart. Hope things change for the better.
- barbtastic0
suckers
- gramme0
People say relationships are give/take, 50/50....but the best ones are give/give, 100/100. In other words, give 100%, even if the other person does not. You might be amazed at how that changes your perspective, and could even motivate them to be more selfless.
I know it sounds like Dr. Phil psycho-babble, but it's the truth, Ruth.
- 7340
and never take out any baggage or insecurity form a past relationship on a current girlfriend... and the opposite is true for her...
and communicate... the more cold shoulders you give each other the quicker you're going to grow apart
- 7340
also keep it fresh... keep it exciting...
pull it out, anywhere... when she least expects it... girls go crazy for that
- no, actually, they don't. Besides hookers, I mean.gramme
- well hooker wife agrees with me... sorry, i forgot i promised i wouldnt call her that anymore734
- hehgramme
- I think this tactic is size dependant. Cruel laughter is no tonic for the libido after all. err, a friend told me this.Studiospooky
- creative-0
Only you know the reason why things didn't work out. You can beat yourself up about it or you can use it as the catalyst to move forward. Every relationship is a learning curve all the way to the end. Nothing written on here will make things better but will hopefully make you see that in time things will get better. Now chin up, go grab yourself a beer and watch the game.
- jevad0
"Every relationship is a learning curve all the way to the end."
Very true. I'm not looking for sympathy, or answers really...but I am interested in hearing people's takes on their own relationships - what has worked and what hasn't, and why.
I don't know why mine always seem to be so complicated...why I can't just play it cool. I think I fall in love way too easily and get way too intense and emotional too early on in the game.
I think I made a mistake not giving myself enough time after my divorce.
- gramme0
How do you feel about yourself outside of being in a relationship?
Self-loathing is a recipe for relationship disaster. Particularly for a guy, it makes it nearly impossible for a woman to respect you, which is the most important thing for just about every guy I know – for us, love = respect.
- Studiospooky0
Punch Hard, Below the belt, when least expected. Always keeps things lively. Face bites. Hard. Eye Poking. Smash them. Destory them.
Oh sorry, thought this was the amateur boxing thread.
- HAHAHahajevad
- ps. i was kidding about the whipping it out, but studio here does it all the time.... even to children. hes on a list734
- I'm a professional clown, that's the only reason I'm doing that kind of thing. Its artistic.Studiospooky
- 7340
honestly dude, you have to be true to yourself... if you fall easily, try to keep a level head about it, but enjoy it... thats agreat feeling.
the person you end up with should feel that way too.
- JackRyan0
You can't be in a relationship and go drink 40's with me before hitting the Cherry Creek Bed, Bath and Beyond for some coug hunting can you?