Moving in with GF
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- hans_glib0
the fact you feel you have to post here makes the answer pretty obvious, doesn't it? If you aren't really excited by the prospect then just don't do it. If it's a dealbreaker then so be it. She clearly isn't worth it if you're not sure.
man up and move on.
- renderedred0
"hang on tightly let go lightly"
- I read this as Holly Golightly from Breakfast at Tiffany's http://en.wikipedia.…panacea
- meok0
She can move in with me anytime.
- panacea0
See "Shit Girls Say" thread for advice. When she starts bitching and being a cunt, then you'll know how to respond and she WILL start bitching and being a cunt.
- pr20
1. You both are young = there is lots of other pussy to be banged in the world before it's time to settle.
2. A person ordering you rather then politely asking is not worth your time. Thus, move on!
- autoflavour0
you know what would help us answer this more appropriately..
naked photos of her
- autoflavour0
on a more serious note, i have friends here in Berlin who have been together for like 6 years and they still live in separate apartments ..
if she is already making demands like this, you know what will come later.. marry me or i will leave, i want a baby or i will leave.. blah blah blah..
- you should make a deal..
more anal sex, or i will leaveautoflavour
- you should make a deal..
- timeless0
sorry to get into this one after 50 posts but this happened to me too. I suggested that if I had made decisions, by myself, about "our" relationship she would be none too happy about it. I would never give her such a decision to make, and I wasn't happy she put me in such a position.
If she's giving you an ultimatum call her bluff. It lets her know you're the man, or it lets you see if she's girl or a woman. I let her know I loved her and I wasn't ready to move in together but if it caused HER to split up OUR relationship, than that's HER decision to leave . . . We've been married for 6 years. If she had left I would have known she wanted nothing to do with me. It's hard, but either way you win: knowing if she truly cares or not.
- panacea0
I love how the moving in with GF thread and Advice thread of leaving long time GF coincide on the same date.
FUCKIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIING LOL! Along with 'Shit Girls Say'. hahaha
- shut up alreadymonospaced
- yeah girls suck.rson
- *jokerson
- popfodders?moldero
- Nathan_Adams0
Why not actually talk to her about the reasons she feels the need to move in, and the reasons why you want to hold off on it?
- smee0
We did. She thinks it would be good financially, and although I agree, I think that frivolous spending is worth my mental health (I need my free space sometimes). But she doesn't seme to understand this concept of.... freedom.
- exador10
depends on a few things dude.
how old are the both of you.....that actually counts for a lot.i've found that when younger folks move in together, they don't often get married. they do the living together for awhile, but usually move on at some point.....often causing some heartbreak along the way.
atleast that's what i've noticed.every case is different though. some make it just fine.
in your case though?...i dunno dude....an ultimatum like that is a bit of red alert.
not. good.are there other ways of showing your commitment than moving in?
or is it the time in the relationship that you should be actually popping the question?...where you guys at in your relationship?
- smee0
But Google won't tell me the average time it takes couples to move in. Fucking Google and it's interwebz magician kraftwerk.
- zarkonite0
sounds like she's trying to use you. Any other clues in your relationship to that effect? does she try to keep you from hanging out with your mates too?
- She does often want me to hang out with her friends instead of mine. Is this a sign of something though?smee
- GET OUT NOWzarkonite
- But she is honest and faithful. She's a good person and everything. She's just wicked serious.
smee - Shit!!!!!! She's coming over soon!! WTF!!!smee
- Should I tie her up or something!?smee
- fucking Hitler was honest and faithful too.zarkonite
- Shit! I'm dating fucking Hitler!smee
- hahasea_sea
- BusterBoy0
Fuck that. If she uses this type of emotional blackmail before you're married, it'll get magnified ten fold when you are. You need to stay strong...if she loves you she'll come around. If she doesn't, then it's for the best in the long run.
- yeah, I hate to agree with you, you shouldn't move in with her because you feel threatenMiguex
- zarkonite0
She should want to SHARE her life with yours. Thinking you can tell your significant other what they can and cannot do with their lives is, in my experience, a cause for disaster sooner or later. Given what you just told me and the fact that I don't know anything about you or her, I'd seriously consider what this relationship is doing for you and to you. Personally, I don't need another boss when I get home.
- autoflavour0
tell her to come onto QBN and we can "discuss" with her the ultimatum she has made..
better yet, we should email her an invitation..