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- 5timuli0
Haha, I fucking hope so :D
- uberdesigner0
write her a song and then adopt a child
- kbags0
if love was simple, there wouldn't be so many songs about it. Accordingly, I offer you...
10 STEPS TO BREAKUP RECOVERY
Okay, listen up, because I am a fucking breakup pro:
1. Exercise. Everyday. Every time you feel depressed, go straight to the gym and use the extra energy to fuel yourself. Eat healthier so you have extra energy. You'll be able to sleep better at night during these tough typically sleepless days, the endorphins will start peaking, and you'll soon have a healthy glow that will attract new tail in no time. This is critical.
2. Anything that reminds you of her goes in a big box and gets tucked somewhere you can't see it. Like your buddy's attic. Don't look at it until after next Xmas.
3. Don't look back. The truth is that after the initial breakup, men tend to waffle in indecision, women tend not to...they've made a decision and they usually stick to it. Nonetheless, they still feel loss, so when she's seemingly indecisive and feeding you post-breakup emotions talking bullshit, you're thinking about drums, guitar, sex with her sister, whatever...not her. You're not getting sucked up in the vortex...you're better than her.
4. Maintain radio silence. It will happen eventually anyway...take action now. You can't be friends right now. There has to be silence for at least a few months before you can take the step to be truly civil. Save time and pain, jump into your future.
5. Jump into your future. You wanna play drums or guitar? Pick one and do it, dude. Throw yourself into work and bettering yourself...you'll make ridiculous strides because the emotional strain leads you to creativity. Kinda like a fucked up muse.
6. Take your time getting back into the game. If you go falling in love with the next woman who lets you in her pants, you're going to wind up in a bad place quickly and that usually means on her front doorstep. The best advice I ever got was, "Don't get into another relationship for another 2 years." When you focus so much of your time on relationships, which are work no matter how easy it is, you're missing out on something else you could be doing. Right now, that "something else" is far more important than loving anyone other than yourself.
7. When you do get back into the game, be yourself and DO NOT act a part to impress the next girl you fall for. When the sex gets dull, you revert to your previously unglamorous self and then she dumps you. Being yourself helps you avoid recurrences of this tragic ending. I.e. if you live to surf, surf a ton, hang out at surf shops, comb your eyebrows, and the right surfer chick will kiss your feet when the time is right. At which time, you will gladly reciprocate.
8. Be proud, and don't go back to the well. Watch Swingers and CQ, and take as many lessons as you can from them.
9. Be a badass. Seriously, even if you're a total wimp with linguini arms, start listening to more Hip-Hop and Ghetto Rap, and pay attention to the words. Maybe even consider tinting your windows. If you don't have a car, buy some new clothes or something, I don't know. You won't be bogged down with mushy love songs, you'll be rolling with your homies, and you'll find new toughness from within. DO NOT LISTEN TO COLDPLAY.
10. The best revenge is to live well. Don't let anything or anyone keep you from this all-important principle.
- SamWu0
I got some boo-tay..
- pascii0
seems like a sport these christmas. 4 friends are dumped here.
think january will be the month for singles...
- Fade2Grey0
Me too have now turned into a slapper
- _salisae_0
worst advice i've ever heard kbags
that's more like 10 steps to being single and heartless for the rest of your life.
are you like .. tom cruise in magnolia or something?
- joyride0
I agree with kpags steps. They will work wonders for you. They are tough sometimes. And i wouldn't wait 2 years, i would say 2 months at least. but you'll soon realize, you really didn't like her that much. And if you did, you more then likely kissed her ass. And who likes an ass kisser? Be a man, walk away, and realize, she just lost the best thing shes ever going to have. NEXT!
- TheTick0
Well, you get New Years as a swinging single..of course, you'll probably end up drunk and drooling on some chick telling her how miserable your life is. My advice. Don't do that. Swing, baby Swing!!! Freedom!!!
- evan_dileo0
Yeah, I agree with kbags steps.
The most important thing is that one is happy with oneself. It would be too easy to just try and fill the gaping hole in your life with another relationship. It won't work. Be a complete person. Love yourself. Co-dependant relationships blow.
I broke up in the summer and threw myself into work and exercise and now I'm sitting pretty.
And happy to be alone.
- otapnam0
listen to the two Atmosphere albums, Lucy Ford and God Loves Ugly. that might help
- nooner0
i've noticed an alarming number of guys gettig dumped / divorced on this forum.
where the players at?
- joyride0
eh, these guys will be fine as soon as they wake up and realize that shes not worth it. IMO, as soon as the girl starts wearing the pants the party's over. As much as they want control of the situation, they love a guy to be a MAN! Nothing makes em want to do anything they can to keep you quite like controlling every situation! Try it. you'll be suprised this shit works!
- otapnam0
i've noticed an alarming number of guys gettig dumped / divorced on this forum.
where the players at?
nooner
(Dec 27 05, 10:37)tortured artists/designers
- Crouwel0
you need to become an ubersexual.
no, it is not what you think.
just look it up.
- Crouwel0
women are taking over. and it's ok.
- inhaler0
got my sympathy... a little late I guess but give that gift back.. dont let that shit sit in your flat/house whatever..
g'luck to ya.
- Rand0
I'm trying to learn to make peace with whatever happens
- son0
pray, all of you
- Rand0
to god, or jesus?