The Midlife crisis thread?
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- NBQ00-2
- Dude is not midlife.********
- Get rid of the ponytail.********
- Dude is not midlife.
- fooler1
I recently started taking Finasteride for my male pattern baldness and I'm looking for a cheap Miata I can turn into a track car.
- zaq2
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- BonSeff0
I turn 45 this summer. I settled down late and became a father even later. My youngest turned one last week and I will be 63 when she graduates high school. It scares the shit out of me.
- Why does it scare you?********
- Because I have old school friends who have already graduated kids and becomming empty nesters and here I am changing diapers at 2am.BonSeff
- also, realizing mortality.BonSeff
- dont be scared, there is a reason why you in your life got this child at the right time. universe is never wrong, right?api
- Thank you, apiBonSeff
- I am 50. Adopted a newborn 10yrs ago. Enjoy every second, good and bad. My son is turning 10 soon. He is holding my hand walking home from school. THat will...lemmy_k
- end soon and I am loving every second of it while I can. Be present now. Take video.lemmy_k
- word. thanks, LemmyBonSeff
- I turn 41 this year. My one wish is to be able to give of myself, to someone else (not romantic, blood or not), like this. What a gift.notype
- Why does it scare you?
- pango1
You buy a Harley?
- ... the open roadBonSeff
- harley’s are for retired folk. get a ducati!dorf
- Amen... I have two Ducati'snecromation
- HijoDMaite3
I have so many hobbies I wish I had more time for, that I don’t think I could ever go through a crisis. I just can’t wait to retire!!
- pedromendez12
I had a rather serious midlife crisis a few years ago.... ill try share my situation and some thoughts.
After dealing with this I've realised we all have our own shit - you just need to try and deal with it as best you can... I'm 38 - got married and had kids very young, now divorced.
Had a pretty horrible last 4 years during the separation and divorce trying to deal with it all and seeing my kids deal with it too.... Just about got through it with a lot of good friends, too much drink, drugs and tinder...
Some things that helped me along the way:
- Exercise. Doing it on your own is good but joining a group of some kind can be great too - the social aspect of finding groups of new friends can be fantastic. This can really help your mindset more than anything I think.... try swimming, cycling, running, boxing, jiu-jitsu, football, whatever you are interested in. This is a must. Whenever I stop exercising for a while, I feel drained and I find my mind goes a bit nuts and I over think everything! Also having your body in shape makes you feel great about yourself.
- Take enough time away for yourself, do something you really want to do, travel with friends, or take a solo holiday, whatever makes you happy. See an exhibition, buy something you really wanted, wank off a goat, whatever floats your boat.
- Push yourself in your work, this can be done in a number of ways. Learn something new maybe? I started a random personal project with no brief or objective, but it's really started to gather momentum and interest from the public and has now become a bit of a personal obsession of mine. I also went back to education, currently in the middle of a masters in my work and it's given me so much focus, determination to keep improving and drive to keep learning. It's also given me a shit load of confidence in what I'm doing. I'm much more assured in meetings, presentations etc now.
- Try and surround yourself with people that are positive and that make you happy. If you're not happy in work, quit and make a change. You will never be happy if you don't enjoy your work.
Best of luck—Midlife Crisis Internet Friends™. xoxox
- this.rootlock
- Midlife Crisis Internet Friends™... I want this tshirt.MrAbominable
- w a nice Newstoday logo (I'll settle for a QBN logo though)formed
- ********0
People get pets so they have something to take care of and more responsibility.
If it's a well trained animal, it's most likely going to improve your life.
- MrAbominable1
"Look up once in a while... Cause when death turns up sometimes you realise that death isn't the one your racing to meet. "
this.
- BusterBoy3
I’m older than most of you bastards here. Going through a major funk. Had a melanoma removed about 7 years ago...had my checkups for a few years after and all fine. Just recently have started getting some pain in my shoulders and back...similar area where it was removed from. Shit scared it’s spread...I’m too much of a fucking coward to go to the doctor...with all the other shitty stuff going on (finances in the hole) I often think it’d be better and easier for everyone around me if I just shuffled off.
Sounds screwey...can’t really remember the last time I was truly happy, rather than just a moment of happiness. Would be 10+ years. Seems like every time I’m my life for years, if a situation has the potential to turn out good or bad, pretty much every time it’s turned out bad.
Freaking woe is me post. What a loser.
- Pain in the back could be anything at your age. Go to the doctor.cannonball1978
- hang in there man, there's always light somewhereBennn
- MrAbominable8
49 and wrestling with failure. There are some external forces but largely I'm a product of my own construction. In my 30s, I had NYC by the tail, writing about design and working at a prominent fine art gallery. A few years later, the company I was working for Enron-ed. Suddenly in my peak earning years, i was sapped with depression and effectively black-balled from a small community.
I switched gears and moved to freelance design work but didn't really have the hussle to make it work and '08 didn't make for friendly freelancing. I still have a few freelance clients but it's mostly drip-feed moonlight work.
In this past decade, I've been married and divorced. Bankrupt. And overextended with zero savings on multiple occasions.
In the past few years, I've been able to crawl back into my original field. It's changed a lot and I've had to change my perspective and expectations. On Friday, before I saw this thread, I was smoking a pipe, drinking whiskey mid-day and watching the East River from my penthouse patio in the rain. I make very little money but ostensibly work in the field of luxury. Old contacts are starting to wake up and I'm working my way to cobble together things i'm supposed to be good at.
And all I can think about is how much I hate my coworkers and want to walk away from it all. again.
Like I said. There are a bunch of external forces but i'm the common denominator in all my problems.
- note: office in a Sutton Place penthouse. I live in Harlem.MrAbominable
- if i learned anything when i rolled over into 50s, it's to take it easy and day by day. zero fucks given most of the time.renderedred
- ^ yes. the world-shaking went away. now i just wrestle with 'what do i settle for'.MrAbominable
- i get what you say, your post also reminded me of my story. i am still trying not to "settle" for anything. that part is pretty lonely ;)renderedred
- Urgh. This reminds me of me a bit, and I'm 45. It's fucking depressing.Continuity
