The Midlife crisis thread?
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- NBQ00-3
My next car...
Comes in a nice midlife-crisis red
- fooler0
This song plays in my head every morning while I apply my Rogaine foam...
- NBQ000
Maybe at a certain age we have too many expectations on how certain things in life should've been. We fail but we can get up again.
We can't change the past, it's done. We can try to influence the future. But should enjoy the moment/ present more often.
At the end of the day this earth was a inhabitable rock some billions of years ago and will be swallowed up by the sun in few billions of years. What does matter in the end in our little human lives?
Sex.
- +1monospaced
- I think by "Sex." you mean "Connection."
; )ideaist
- allthethings7
57. Close enough to retirement to want it five years ago. Haven't been fulfilled in a job since being downsized in 2013. Had a decent run working from home but it wasn't really sustainable. I found a job (took it mostly for the health insurance...a long story involving being run over with my girlfriend while in a crosswalk, which revealed thyroid cancer, your classic bad news/good news situation), but it is deeply unsatisfying. A waste of time, actually, which is the only thing we have of value, really.
Not having a midlife crisis. Didn't have one after divorce 10 years ago, either. When I feel I'm in a crisis it's more a living crisis, the one that keeps us working in stupid jobs instead of just living. I do feel the Internet thing is real. I don't feel motivated as I once did. Getting home from this job makes me want a pint and some entertainment, rather than striving for things. I used to have a sidelight as a local newspaper columnist, but just don't care enough to do it (assuming people would give me a platform at this point. I kind of live for two nights of football a week, which I hope to be able to play until I'm 75.
I'm also completely disaffected by the state of US politics. I went to NL last winter and would dearly love to move there. Though a lot would stop me even if I could manage it...my kids live in the States, for one. Maybe retirement is best spent traveling around to spend time with old friends who I never get to see (1,000 miles away from virtually all of them).
The advice in here is all good. Do what you enjoy, spend time with people you love being around. Definitely live in the moment. When my girlfriend and I came to (I only had a gap of hours, hers was a couple of weeks), we felt much more profoundly how fragile our existence is. We were on our way to a pub after I'd scored a goal in my game (a rare thing) and was excitedly recounting it...it was such an ordinary evening, and then you wake up in a hospital bed and you realize that your kids were *that close* to being orphaned. It doesn't make you want to put up with any bullshit, I can tell you that. Like this fucking job.
- vwsung18t2
38, I bought a house 6 years ago with my fiancee. We broke up, been living alone in the suburbs for a couple of years. I put up my house for sale this week. Sent out word to everyone I know to take all my stuff. I gave away half my clothes. I don't value things anymore. I only need the essentials.
Arranged my job so I can work remotely full-time. Now I'm going to decide on moving to LA, close to NY (Queens, Brooklyn) or out of US. Excited about a new life but also terrified and anxious. It'll be like this for a few months until the house is sold. Then, I'll be traveling. Maybe in my travels, I'll find a new home.
- holy shit, I think I always thought you were another QBNer!
. Anyway.
Sounds like a plan, especially the cutting down on 'things'. I need to do more of thatNairn - do i know you?vwsung18t
- haha, No not at all - we've just been visiting the same site for nearly 20 years! For some reason I had your handle here as the original pseud for someone elseNairn
- sounds like depression.imbecile
- yeah so crazy that some of us have been around here for so longvwsung18t
- if you value a 'thing' so will someone else, so then you've go to protect, insure, lock up that 'thing'... and that's how you spend your life.shapesalad
- if you value being in the moment, aligned with the rotation of the earth. if you value life and simply being here alive on earth.. no one can take that.shapesalad
- it's a daily challenge.shapesalad
- but I like your plan.shapesalad
- thanks. i'm also seeing someone for the first time since my ex. maybe it'll become somethingvwsung18t
- I recommend motorbike routes over Northern Southeast Asia, you can still get internet access in the small towns...robotron3k
- Thanks robo. I think I heard that motorbiking in Vietnam is cool. I will look into it.vwsung18t
- Sounds rough, but also sounds like you're pulling through. A sabbatical is great if you can swing it - get your mind clear.ben_
- Accepted an offer on the house. Closing at the end of June!vwsung18t
- ...but Girl I was dating for 2 months just broke upvwsung18t
- ...now the buyer is pulling out so I have to find a new buyervwsung18t
- holy shit, I think I always thought you were another QBNer!
- Bennn0
"The Biggest Wastes Of Time We Regret When We Get Older"
- Bennn2
"The Purpose Of Life Is Not Happiness: It’s Usefulness"
- MrT0
I wonder if trans men have them too?
- BusterBoy0
Must admit, sometimes the idea of getting rid of everything in my life and moving to a different country does appeal.
- pango0
travel to india to find your self?
- dee-dubs3
Mid 40's here and try as i might i still can't fucking tell the difference between parsley & coriander!
- Coriander has a lot more taste and aroma!nbq
- hahahahanecromation
- take a sniff at the leafsBennn
- My local Turkish shop has bunches of them right next to each other and it fucking gets me every time.Nairn
- Parsley has wedgier leafs, coriander leafs are rounderdmay
- ^ Nairn....mine too!! I've resorted to asking my kids to go into the shop and buy it cos it doesn't seem so dense for a child to be asking which is whichdee-dubs
- huh? there is a massive difference, parsley being darker green for a start.shapesalad
- bezoar0
Perhaps it’s been mention before, too drunk to find out, but imho really what to know is if they can still be considered to attractive or at least fuckable. Married or single really. Is my dick ready, Pubic hair too long. Too much gray. Need more tats.
- ben_3
Figure I have 3-4 good years left in this field before becoming complacent. Strong draw to the east coast to open a pizza shop in a tourist town. Bad idea? slice salary in 1/4 most likely, but increase family time by 1/2. Probably live mortgage-free with good savings as house prices are about 1/4-1/3 or what we'd sell for here.
- lemmy_k5
I am looking for part time woodworking gig. Tired of unfulfilling work. I will work two jobs until I can support my family making stuff from trees.
- BonSeff6
getting a house ready to sell and still living in it, contractor over promising and under delivering, house has been in shambles for a month, eating like shit cause the kitchen is fucked and working my ass off to clear it out to show. wife watches hgtv and thinks this shit is a breeze. every weekend is hard fucking work, yard, painting, packing, cleaning up dust after the workers leave. and still delivering at my job with the normal internal and client bullshit. i am loosing it.
- hang in there man! Keep an eye on the mountain topBennn
- Tryin, BennnBonSeff
- i love it when they say "this is what WE should do", meaning you make it happen. take it easy man...renderedred
- Thanks. I am just trying to hold shit down, but when I break I feel like an asshole.BonSeff
- Pile on a one year old and five year old which i would much rather be spending time with.BonSeff
- That sucks. Try to get a list going so you can see an end to it, don't let the wife keep moving the goal posts.eryx
- Yo da man Bon! A real man steps up, you’re showing that.moldero
- sounds more like a first world problemutopian
- We're building a new house, and yesterday after one of those "house renewal" shows my wife decides to change the intire kitchen layout, windows includeddmay
- "wife watches hgtv and thinks this shit is a breeze" - sorry, that made me smile. It's what my partner thinks about EVERYTHING I do, work-wise or around houseNairn
- Thanks for the words of encouragement on my 1st world problem. Yesterday was a fucked up day. Thanks for allowing me to vent.BonSeff
- You mean your place doesn't magically change after a commercial break? Hang in there, dude!desmo
- pedromendez17
- awwww id get one.pango
- Im on it ( ͡~ ͜ʖ ͡°)pedromendez
- T-Shirt of the Dayfooler
- XLmaquito
- Make the logo just a tad biggr. Wait, did I just say that?maquito
- The CD in me would be already asking for a logo with MCIF.maquito
- We all grew old.Khurram
- XL too, one in black and another in red, dankeOBBTKN
- would buymantrakid
- XL?! you fatties! Get reading the Healthy Thread...shapesalad
- Take my moneyCalderone2000
- i think you already KNOW that I'm in. Awesome Pedro.MrAbominable
- I'll take two XL pleaseformed
- that is excellent! I'll take one for sure!lajj
- Fantastic. I'll take a medium.mg33
- Can we get a "The Making Beats Thread™" version too :)microkorg
- Haha cool - ill set up a print run :)pedromendez
- Midlife Crisis Internet Friends is a good album title.shellie
- copyright infringementimbecile
- @shape... We're a bunch of big guys, you, shortie ;)OBBTKN
- I'm in.ben_
- for a large.ben_
