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- gramme
For those of you that have designed wedding invitations:
Is it considered standard procedure to have two envelopes? Like you get an envelope in the mail, open it up, there's another envelope, and the invitation is inside that?
My fiancee tells me that's standard procedure, but I don't think I've ever seen one done that way. Seems like a superfluous waste of paper even if it is 'traditional'.
opinions welcome. danke
- grunttt0
the 2nd envelope is so that the recipient of the invitation can mail back their RSVP.
- flavorful0
Every wedding invitation I've ever 'received' ... yes.
Never designed my own, but if I did, I probably would include a pre-addressed/stamped envelope for ease of return to my guests.
- blastofv0
lots of invite sets have 3 – the outer envelope, the inner envelope, and then the return envelope... i agree that it's odd – maybe it's intended to protect the rest of the invite set?
but if they're having a designer create a custom invite, there should be some flexibility to do what you want right? and to not be so traditional? otherwise, why not just buy a pre-designed set with silver ink and flourishes?
- gramme0
Every wedding invitation I've ever 'received' ... yes.
Never designed my own, but if I did, I probably would include a pre-addressed/stampe d envelope for ease of return to my guests.
flavorful
(Jul 12 06, 08:20)No no, you guys misunderstand. She's talking about 3 envelopes. One A7 for the whole thing. Another one inside that that has a name written in calligraphy. The invitation, RSVP card, and RSVP envelope are all inside the second envelope.
Seems to me one envelope to house everything as well as a smaller one for the RSVP should suffice. I don't understand the point of having TWO envelopes to house everything. It's like wearing two pairs of pants at once. Make sense?
- gramme0
but if they're having a designer create a custom invite, there should be some flexibility to do what you want right? and to not be so traditional? otherwise, why not just buy a pre-designed set with silver ink and flourishes?
blastofv
(Jul 12 06, 08:28)I'm the groom as well as the designer. My fiancee is all about tradition, but her dad is all about saving $$ and I don't want to be the bearer of bad news on account of extra paper costs. paying for the whole thing myself would be awesome to avoid price discussions, but her family is old-school and is insisting on paying for everything...which means this invitation gets done on the ultra-cheap.
:/
- mstrobert0
it's true, 2 envelopes for the invitation is standard or traditional, plus a 3rd for the RSVP (smaller) ... just went through all of this with mine.
- flavorful0
Oh heh, I've seen just two then.
I was going to do the invitations for my best friend (until I told him I'd probably never get them done, and I can't have this over my head), and I looked over the final invitations which were pretty nice.
Envelope to send ...
Inside a Card (which acted as a second envelope, with the RSVP card/stamped envelope inside), with the details and all that good stuff.
No need for 3 envelopes, that is crazy talk.
- mstrobert0
I was also supposed to be the designer ... with paper and print costs though, we found it significantly cheaper to go with a premade set.
- flavorful0
Also, at that wedding, money was absolutely not a concern in the fucking least (and I mean this).
- gramme0
No need for 3 envelopes, that is crazy talk.
flavorful
(Jul 12 06, 08:33)YA RLY
- flavorful0
Another thought, it depends on the amount of people you are inviting come to think of it.
This wedding had like 500+ invitations alone, so the 2nd envelope which housed the stuff with the person(s) name on it to give a little customised thing for them was completely unnecessary.
If it's a small wedding, the extra envelope can be a nice touch.
- monoboy0
Do what you want, it's your wedding.
They're always great opportunities to do something special IE, win a D&AD award.
Sod tradition.
- gramme0
since when did weddings get so complicated? Whatever happened to simplicity??
I'm so ready to be done w/ all the planning and get on with married life. Without the design-by-committee.
:|
- gramme0
Do what you want, it's your wedding.
They're always great opportunities to do something special IE, win a D&AD award.
Sod tradition.
monoboy
(Jul 12 06, 08:37)I WISH. Since day one I've been given A LOT of opinions about this. the in-laws have a heavy presence in the planning. Feels a bit claustrophobic, to be honest.
- wreef0
I am actually desiging invites as we speak and YES I plan to do the "2 pant"(2 envelope) thing.
I plan to use a high quality super white envelope for the invitation - envelope 1. And, a second cheaper one hold the first (with contents) - envelope 2.
The reason - to keep the super white envelop clean and free from damage during mailing and delivery.
Wreefer,
out.
- gramme0
There's a balance to be struck here, I wanna make my fiancee happy, and she's traditional southern style...ah, the joy of choosing battles
- gramme0
kew. Thanks wreef. Guess in the grand scheme, these details shouldn't really matter...
- monoboy0
Oh dear, tread carefully then.
Sounds like the 'big day' has been hijacked into a status symbol fest by your inlaws.
Just enjoy the day, it goes quickly. (And it's ace fun btw).
- gramme0
Sounds like the 'big day' has been hijacked into a status symbol fest by your inlaws.
monoboy
(Jul 12 06, 08:44)True, unfortunately. Wonderful people, I'm super glad they care about their daughter...but true. Kinda makes me want to elope.
- flavorful0
Funny how leading up to the marriage, it can seem like it has nothing to do with the two actual people involved, haha.
Keep your cool and try not to blow up and say things, "Jesus Fucking H. Christ it's not like you're getting married", and, "I've dropped clients for inane commentary on my work and you are head and shoulders above them in stupidity!"
Sit back and smile, after all ... you ARE getting married!