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- grunttt0
I've heard "that's what we should have done" more times than I can count after telling people how my wife and I handled our wedding. We had our 2 best friends (a married couple) marry us on top of a mountain. He officiated and she was a witness plus photographer. We literally pulled a hiker off of the trail to be out 2nd witness. Than a month later we through a reception. It was the most beautiful thing I've ever done.
This photo was literally taken 5 minutes after we tied the knot.
- flavorful0
That is so flippin cool you and your brother are getting married on the same day!!!!
Because now, one of you should always remember the anniversary and will be able to clue the other one in!!
Though there are a lot more sweeter things to it I guess, haha.
- Point50
In my opinion, when it comes to getting married, tradition is for the birds. I sent my invite out and basically told people to call or email with their RSVP. I even emailed the invite as a pdf to about 15 people. The last 4 weddings I attended, I never sent back the stupid RSVP slip in the cutesy envelope; I just emailed or called the groom or bride and told them I'd be there.
Seriously... hell, to me, marriage is pretty outdated. Yeah, I'm married, but I did that for my wife. I'd love her the same, ring or not. The material things (rings, cake, honeymoon) don't make the marriage, the people involved do. The best thing about my wedding is that 90% of the people that I wanted there actually showed up; and they had a blast as did I.
- madirish0
since when did weddings get so complicated? Whatever happened to simplicity??
I'm so ready to be done w/ all the planning and get on with married life. Without the design-by-committee.
:|
gramme
(Jul 12 06, 08:38)right there with you matt. i am in the exact same boat- designing mine in a bit as well. hey, we go intogether for a group buy maybe we could get a letterpress discount. : )
cheers man, and thanks for the book again- even better in person.
- grunttt0
i'm pretty sure that 2nd envelope (the one with all the stuff in it, not the rsvp, not the mailing envelope) is so that people can save it as a keepsake... which means maybe 3 people. Her mom, your mom, any surviving grandma.
- grunttt0
the 2nd envelope is so that the recipient of the invitation can mail back their RSVP.
- madirish0
wow, sorry for the delay here- but the book does rule mang.
good luck with that wedding night stuff as well.... and i say do what grunttt says ;)
- flavorful0
Every wedding invitation I've ever 'received' ... yes.
Never designed my own, but if I did, I probably would include a pre-addressed/stamped envelope for ease of return to my guests.
- blastofv0
lots of invite sets have 3 – the outer envelope, the inner envelope, and then the return envelope... i agree that it's odd – maybe it's intended to protect the rest of the invite set?
but if they're having a designer create a custom invite, there should be some flexibility to do what you want right? and to not be so traditional? otherwise, why not just buy a pre-designed set with silver ink and flourishes?
- gramme0
Every wedding invitation I've ever 'received' ... yes.
Never designed my own, but if I did, I probably would include a pre-addressed/stampe d envelope for ease of return to my guests.
flavorful
(Jul 12 06, 08:20)No no, you guys misunderstand. She's talking about 3 envelopes. One A7 for the whole thing. Another one inside that that has a name written in calligraphy. The invitation, RSVP card, and RSVP envelope are all inside the second envelope.
Seems to me one envelope to house everything as well as a smaller one for the RSVP should suffice. I don't understand the point of having TWO envelopes to house everything. It's like wearing two pairs of pants at once. Make sense?
- gramme0
but if they're having a designer create a custom invite, there should be some flexibility to do what you want right? and to not be so traditional? otherwise, why not just buy a pre-designed set with silver ink and flourishes?
blastofv
(Jul 12 06, 08:28)I'm the groom as well as the designer. My fiancee is all about tradition, but her dad is all about saving $$ and I don't want to be the bearer of bad news on account of extra paper costs. paying for the whole thing myself would be awesome to avoid price discussions, but her family is old-school and is insisting on paying for everything...which means this invitation gets done on the ultra-cheap.
:/
- mstrobert0
it's true, 2 envelopes for the invitation is standard or traditional, plus a 3rd for the RSVP (smaller) ... just went through all of this with mine.
- flavorful0
Oh heh, I've seen just two then.
I was going to do the invitations for my best friend (until I told him I'd probably never get them done, and I can't have this over my head), and I looked over the final invitations which were pretty nice.
Envelope to send ...
Inside a Card (which acted as a second envelope, with the RSVP card/stamped envelope inside), with the details and all that good stuff.
No need for 3 envelopes, that is crazy talk.
- mstrobert0
I was also supposed to be the designer ... with paper and print costs though, we found it significantly cheaper to go with a premade set.
- flavorful0
Also, at that wedding, money was absolutely not a concern in the fucking least (and I mean this).
- gramme0
cheers man, and thanks for the book again- even better in person.
madirish
(Jul 12 06, 11:01)Hey Matt! Glad you got/like the book. I was wondering if it came through :)
- gramme0
No need for 3 envelopes, that is crazy talk.
flavorful
(Jul 12 06, 08:33)YA RLY
- flavorful0
Another thought, it depends on the amount of people you are inviting come to think of it.
This wedding had like 500+ invitations alone, so the 2nd envelope which housed the stuff with the person(s) name on it to give a little customised thing for them was completely unnecessary.
If it's a small wedding, the extra envelope can be a nice touch.
- monoboy0
Do what you want, it's your wedding.
They're always great opportunities to do something special IE, win a D&AD award.
Sod tradition.
- gramme0
which means maybe 3 people. Her mom, your mom, any surviving grandma.
grunttt
(Jul 12 06, 11:02)ha....yup. Good times. Make that two people: her mom, and an old professor of mine who'll be at the wedding and is a design junkie like myself :)