How would you feel?
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- invo0
Ok, I'm going to tell you what to do and this is the only way - Lie to them, tell them that you dont have money. And blame it on your upbringing.
1. You will not have to give them money (which is just wrong)
2. You will not have to deny them money, which is hard to do for family.
- version30
tough love...
i'm only doing this because i care...
i can't keep giving you money...
you'll never learn...
i'm not Jesus but...
Teach a man to fish right dad?
- Josev0
And, yes, I still suggest going to a therapist. Most health insurance plans include it in their coverage.
- Josev0
Put food on the table? It sounds like that 300.00 would have done that. And now it's his job to help them get back on their feet? If they found a way to buy three buildings they should be resourceful enough to solve this problem themselves. Or to get a loan, or to have learned that they have to save so much for periods when the the units will not have tenants (which is common if you're a landlord). Someone aside from vitamin needs to be more responsible.
- ukit0
I love how you guys are all telling him he needs to take himself and his parents to therapy sessions when they can't even put food on the table.
Help your parents get on back on their feet with a reliable source of income, that's the only therapy they'll need.
- Josev0
Anyway, the comment about going to therapy was right on. The earlier the better. It's a parents job to nurture their children, not the other way around.
- Josev0
It's crazy that if you frame the experience differently, like if you described what was happening and thought of it in terms of other people, you realize how disrespectful and abusive his (or in my case my) parents are being. When you're inside of a situation like that or grew up in it, your too close to it, you're thinking emotionally, and it all seems very normal.
- fooler20
damn, I need to call my parents when I get home and thank them for never asking me for money.
I swear I haven't even asked them for a dime since they paid for my education. I've even had to pawn shit before I could even ask for anything more.
Even when they come to visit and I try and pay for dinner after all they have done for me I find a few twenties left out on the counter when they leave.
But if the tables were turned and they needed my help I would do anything for them, even lend them a few bucks.
- Josev0
My father is just like your parents. Until recently I had been giving him money (5k, 3k, 15k). When I was a child I also had to give any money that I made to my mom to buy food with. It was crazy. The problem is that they'll never learn how to manage money if you keep saving them. It's painful to watch them fail (or near fail) but it has to happen. If you let it persist it will only get worse as you get older.
- CALLES0
just a question. did you pulled one of this when you open the "present"
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- fooler20
maybe your parents finally won big at the track
- version30
the first mistake was giving your family money. especially your parents. they are bound to disappoint you. someone who is asking their offspring for funding obviously can't be trusted to make a sound decision with a dollar
- CALLES0
send them money and a catalog of hings you liked marked on it
- Antonelli0
Donate the clothes to the homeless. You'll feel better.
- bigtrick0
it's nice that you're a loving enough son to send them the $5k anyway even though you know you'll never get it back. i'm sure they're proud to have a son like you (:
- nicole_marie0
if your parents were in your financial situation whatever it may be, and you kept asking them for money, never expecting to pay them back. what do you think they would do, maybe next time work out a loan payment in the agreement, or write something out about this property you might get. i know if i kept borrowing money from anyone i would want documentation of it and be expected to pay it back at some point.
- Antonelli0
Use the oversized clothes to make a tent when you lose your house. You'll thank them later.