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I found your mom on there, tell her I said thanks.
Is it better than OK CUPID?
All those apps are for creepy guys to hit on 20 year olds.
Here comes another "I think I might have Herpes/Chlamydia/STD thread" :)
Interesting in what way?
my mate is cleaning up in Dalston, London... So much so that i've told him to stop showing me the countless fuck angels, each one hotter and dirtier than the last.
Some of my friends use it to hook up with girls.
well the interesting part is how much faster and 'intuitive' it is compared to all the other dating sites. At first I thought the process was a little vain. but what more do you need? look at a handful of pictures, read a few line description and swipe yes/no. if they swipe yes as well then it is a match.
I feel like all the other dating sites are too much work with filling out profiles, sending 1000's of messages, when all you really want to do is check people out near you and see if they are interested.
girls with group photos on tinder... they're always the least attractive one.
The problem I think with Tinder is that it's a meat market. If I want a long term relationship, I can filter through what I'm looking for on a dating site.
I've been coming to some cowboy conclusions lately after speaking to friends of all types using Tinder, "conventional" dating sites like Match.com and in-real-life, and at least from my small pool of friends' experiences and my own wild spin on it, I think Tinder is more efficient at finding a good partner for most people than in-person spontaneous dating attempts or the more meticulous online-profile skimming and matching.
I have several friends that have started relationships and kept them going for more than a few months now through Tinder.
My theory is that with Tinder, it shatters the confidence barrier of approaching someone, and also doesn't give you enough opportunities to turn someone down based on an interest. It gets you talking faster.
Match.com/OK Cupid, other profile-heavy sites - It takes ages to get yourself a decent profile and people often judge by that first picture anyway. Those that don't judge purely based on that first photo then spend time reading through lots of info about you, before starting to talk. I've seen people going through OKC profiles like it was a CV for a new CEO. "Oh, she likes Miley Cyrus - NOPE!", "She mentions liking football, tomboy, NO!". When on OKC a lot of people end of looking for one excuse to not pursue someone, rather than the many reasons they should. Tinder gives less opportunity for your brain to make you hesitate and gets you talking immediately, and in a more raw and natural way.
In-person "Hi how are ya" - I know very few people that have the confidence, when in a normal state, to approach anyone they find interesting. Those that have that confidence also use Tinder. If you insist on "meeting someone online is weird", perhaps consider that relying on getting smashed so you can muster the confidence to approach a girl and say "Hey, that's a really interesting jacket you have, I'm ..." is also kind of fucking weird. Tinder eliminates the confidence issue.
Tinder - Whether in-person or on OKC, most people will make a big judgement of someone based on appearance. Tinder makes that simple and effective. It doesn't give you a huge amount of info for you negatively judge an opportunity, other than personality from the first messages you exchange. Friends that are in relationships because of Tinder have all have a few things in common - they didn't actually talk much on Tinder, they just went into "Hey lets meet at XXX tonight". Once the ice is broken, the in-person stuff gets easier and more natural. The other thing they had in common is that they met with a lot of people, and a lot of them they didn't hit it off with, and they all see the bad dates as no-big-deal situations.
I think if you're critical of Tinder for being shallow etc then you're probably not that good at dating or meeting people generally. Anyone I know who is sociable and single, or flexible, has been enjoying Tinder an awful lot.
Problem with Tinder is you need a FB account. Which I don't have.
set - so this Tinder thing, you made a fake profile using your real name?
I am in the 'reluctant to try this new thing' category, especially using my regular FB account that has business names, etc.
You have to then re-friend a ton of people to get matches, right?
- you refriend noone, it just grabs pics from your FB account basicly and sets up an idea of trust nicelyWeyland
- doesn't it suggest things based off of your existing friends? If you have none, you get less results, or am I wrong?formed
- Nope it just takes your name and profile photos and feeds everyone the same nearby people.set
- I'm using a Facebook account with no friends on it and have had hundreds of matches...set
- Perfect, thanks!formed