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- shellie0
I ghosted someone I was seeing. I couldn't bare to tell him why I wasn't interested.
1) He was a flat eather for real (weird someone else posted something similar) but I couldn't get over it. I thought he was an idiot for that. After he really tried to defend that, a lot of other things he has said that I might have let slide sounded rediculous and rang in my head. The lack common sense was actually offensive.
2) One day I thought he ghosted me. He did not. After a date we had he ended up really sick and in the hospital and had half of his intestine removed. Long story short, he has a colostomy bag now. I tried, really tried, to hang with him again after that. But, it really grossed me out. I couldn't get over that either. Our relationship wasn't really a relationship to begin with at that point just a few casual dates and I couldn't stick with it. But, I feel a little guilty. I know hes going to have a much harder time dating now and everyone deserves happiness. He's fairly young (early 30s) and having to shit in a bag is unfortunate.
I'm not sure what really did it for me, point 1 or point 2. Probably point 1 but point 2 didn't help. I just left him on read for eternity. His last text, "Are you ghosting me?" actually triggered the for real ghosting. At first I just meant to give myself some space to think. But, when I read that text I said to myself, "Yes, that is definately what im doing." I may apologise after some time. But, I don't want to date him anymore even if I do speak to him. We have no mutual friends or work in the same field. Just someone way out of network I met on an app. Sometimes things just don't work out. Does it really need an explanation?
- *earthershellie
- i would do the same thing.pango
- however id send a simple text in few days "ya... this is not gonna work out"pango
- It's been over a month now pang. I feel le its possible he's completely forgotten about me and reaching out would be worse/triggering. What you think?shellie
- point 1 is infinitely worse. you could have lived with #2, shit happens._niko
- I see what you did there niko.shellie
- ;)_niko
- oooof ya passed the point of no return. let's hope you don't run into him on the street. and or that you have the endurance for awkwardness.pango
- That would be like ruining into him in times square when you live in queens. Unlikely. We didn't hang in the same places or live near each other. Thnk god!!shellie
- It is better you did an Irish exit early on, he's got bigger concerns and it's healthier he focus on the future ;)robotron3k
- Not fan of ghosting, but to be with someone just out of pity is worse. It's best for both to end itdrgs
- Don't date flat Earthers, but don't ghost people either. Too late now, but a simple 'it's not working for me' is better than a ghost. No judgement :)sarahfailin
- "I'm a flat earther" would had me running out the door before finishing his next sentence.hotroddy
- red flag. suspended indefinitely.hotroddy
- don't feel bad about ghosting. flat earthers should be used to it.hotroddy
- He actually tried to make his case with like hr long YouTube videos. I had to put my foot down & stay stop. HE said "You really like when i shut up." Uhm, yes!shellie
- Flat earth is the dumbest unlikely and expensive conspiracy for no fucking reason. Give me a break!shellie
- He deserves the respect to hear "it's not working out"Hayoth
- Aside from basic science, it makes zero sense even if science as we know it was wrong. I literally cannot get on board.shellie
- You're right haygoth. Its probably the meanest thing I've ever done. Im riddled with guilt. At this point im worried about making him feel worse.shellie
- How hot was this guy that you continued to date him after you found out he was a "flat earther"??????fooler
- @fooler That part unfolded slowly. That was basically our last date before he ended up in the hospital. I probably never would have seen him again after that bushellie
- when he called me from the hospital, I was kinda shocked and sad for him. So, I let him come over one more time because he was finally able to be outside movingshellie
- around and he said he just wanted to feel normal for a minute. :(shellie
- 1 text - "roses are red, voilets are blue
The world is fucking round, yes I'm ghosting you'dee-dubs - ^lol. simple and to the point.hotroddy
- he made people watch hr long youtube video LOL. best idea anyone ever had.pango
- Can't date a flat earther. There's no future in it. Imagine being at a party five years in and the subject comes up. You'll hate your lifenb
- ghosting is childish. Just text him you're sorry but not interested and THEN don't reply anymore eversrhadden
- Are there really that many Flat Earthers out there? I'm kind of amazed more than one of you have had this experience...yuekit
- Let him know that you can’t date somebody so incredibly stupid they can’t accept the fact that we live on a planet. He can live with that.monospaced
- And a colostomy bag is a deal breaker. Don’t feel bad about that. He isn’t too idiotic to know that is disgusting.monospaced
- Hayoth seems to know as much about relationships as he does communism (literally nothing at all), so I wouldn’t give his input any weight at all.monospaced
- This sounds to me like you ghosted him out of disgust, not out of disagreement.cannonball1978
- You ghosted him.
Now his bag is filling with rage
Mostly shit, but now with ragefuturefood - Mono-- I don't know what's worse - being a flat earther or defending communismhotroddy
- lol... from colostomy bags to communism... this post delivers!PonyBoy
- wait... so if I believe the world is round and I don't have a colostomy bag I might have a chance to date you? Sweet!fooler
- hotroddy, worse is the guy who calls people communists when they aren’t, and worse than that is the one who thinks people are defending itmonospaced
- Because there are no communists here or in our government or really anywhere in this country, and nobody is defending it. That’s you and hayoth 100% making it umonospaced
- flat earther is enough.autoflavour
- Posting this here was the right choice. A colostomy bag full of rage? You're getting coal for Christmas @futurefood. Welcome to the club.shellie
- And by coal, I'm talking about Trump's coal. Big lumps shaped like T and covered in gold foil wrap.shellie
- set?mekk
- Colostomy bag isn't a death sentence - there are people who will look past that.ben_
- So he'll be fine.ben_
- oh wait, he's a flat-earther. he's fucked.ben_
- Shellie, maybe he just wanted to get rid of you. And when the flat earth thingy didn't work he got his intestine removed.NBQ00
- mugwart3
Pango beat me at chess ....
- NBQ000
I went on a date with a Flatearther girl. Seriously, she's dead serious about it. Had no idea about her world-views before going on the date. It was fun, she's really cool though.
- cool enough to make a baby with?drgs
- Tinder?notype
- yesNBQ00
- I have so many questions.
Going on a 2nd?notype - lol, maybe.NBQ00
- ask her to take a trip with you to the ice wall edge of the earth. then push her off.capn_ron
- Is it even possible to talk to her without her picking up on the fact you think this idea is totally insane?monospaced
- Can she explain the phases of the moon?BabySnakes
- When she moves her head, do you hear something rattling in there?Continuity
- lolNBQ00
- How the topic of the shape of the earth come up on a date? Lolyuekit
- lol yuekit "I just need to say I have flat balls"fadein11
- That's strange, I imagined most flat earthers to be men with mental health problems.PhanLo
- she very well could be a man with mental health problemsmonospaced
- how'd the second go?notype
- LOLpango
- NBQ007
Posting my opinions on QBN made me an incel.
- Nairn0
Not my confession as such, but I met some very old friends last week, one of whom reminded me that he'd come to visit me at university. I vaguely recalled some of the stories he told about it (hey, I was taking a lot of drugs at the time) but there was one I'd completely forgotten: Apparently there was a group of very insular Chinese students (no way!) who'd irritated me somehow (no way!) so my friend apparently took it upon himself to take a shit in their 10kg bag of rice.
I spent the entire day racking my brain trying to remember him doing that (no dice) but I know this friend, and I know he has no reason to bullshit becuase he's a fucking headcase.
How could I forget that?
Anyway, i just found the image of him squatting over a bag of rice in someone else's student halls grunting out a shit fucking hilarious.
- (also, the image of some poor exchange student who could never quite integrate starting his lunch only to find some stonking gwailo shit in his food)Nairn
- antimotion1
I really liked the Bumblebee film...
It seriously made me feel like a kid again - especially when they threw in: THE TOUCH, by Stan Bush
- OBBTKN0
It's my turn... i like some Julio Iglesias's music, especially, this song...
Weah!!!
- jagara7
Grew up without a TV. Used to steal change from my moms purse every week. Then buy candy, and go to the library and read comic books for 5 hours straight.
- ...at age 6-10jagara
- Well, looks like we got ourselves a reader.Morning_star
- do you still read for 5 hours straight?Krassy
- No :)jagara
- Nairn2
I'm 41 years old but I just had to check YouTube to get a how-to tie a Half Windsor knot in a tie.
Aside from two occasions, this is perhaps the third time I've worn a tie in the last 30 years
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(It's for some themed event this evening - I'm barely themed and I already feel like a total twat — if I'm lucky when I'm going through town I'll just look like a mismatched nerd or, at best, a hipster. Nobody cares, of course.
- I actually *almost* had it on first attempt before resorting to internet — muscle memory from being a <10 year old kid wearing a tie at schoolNairn
- Sub-confession — when I was 8, I had an elasticated tie.Nairn
- Im with ya --
Had a clip on tie as a kid. And still have to check youtube for a refresher when I throw on a tie now. ohwelp.desmo - Why the half? Full windsor 4 life.section_014
- over, under, over, up and through. thats how i remember to tie school tie.microkorg
- I'm 42 and i never tied a tie in my life.jagara
- mekk7
I'm hardly doing any work for months and I got a positive review this year along with a raise. wtf.
- shut up and run with it!pango
- my 100% at the office = 40% actual work + 40% browsing the web + 20% personal projectsdrgs
- whats your secret! I killed myself and got positive reviews but minimal raise!mugwart
- ^ the little work I did was flawless while some of my coworkers fucked up one thing after anothermekk
- You're too good for the people you work with loli_was
- whatever I don't want the big bucks or international career, I want my peace of mind and time for travellingmekk
- ^ you said it man, you said it.helloeatbreathedrive
- Figure out how to go home at 3 or work 4 days a week instead and you'll be a genius.freedom
- I had a job like that where I had a ton of down time and got praise but it was depressing because I never knew how to look busy.freedom
- that would be freedom (excuse the pun!)mugwart
- Maybe You doing more by doing lessadrok
- whoaw.... mind blown....pango
- Same. Had a baby. Barely worked the first couple months. Took 8 weeks leave and 3 weeks vacation. Can’t recall any standout projects. Best review in a decade.monospaced
- prophetone1
I bought, am now listening to an old secret fav, Castles in the Sky
#tranceoccasionally
- trance sauce!!!
https://www.youtube.…prophetone - The Streets!Krassy
- Yeah new stuff incoming - call me in the morning is back to mike's roots, me likesprophetone
- trance sauce!!!
- hotroddy-6
I piss into the sink on airplane bathrooms. (toilet is too low and always make a mess)
- Awe man not cool.monospaced
- fuck you!BusterBoy
- Wow. If you're not joking, that fairly comprehensively describes everything anyone would ever need to know about you. What a nasty person.Nairn
- finally, an actual confession. upvotedGnash
- How tall are you? Surely it's easier to piss into a toilet than a sink? Mucky sod.Fax_Benson
- what a nasty person!chukkaphob
- lolset
- I enjoy how offended people are at thisset
- @set same, but also disturbedKrassy
- Don't listen to them. KEEP DOING IT!maquito
- probably more common than we think. thankfully i've honed the art of touching nothing in pub. bathrooms.notype
- Lol... best confession yet :)PonyBoy
- ^ you misspelled *worstchukkaphob
- Airplanes are not made for tall people, take a boatOBBTKN
- LOL. Keep it real Roddy!Hayzilla
- geez.lol i'm not an animal. I soap down the sink after I'm done.hotroddy
- Your filthy ass reminded me of this article I read last year:
https://www.google.c…futurefood - The tank system for drinking water is fucked, imagine the water system used to wash your hands.futurefood
- Piss like a woman instead. Sit.jagara
- Anyone that thinks this is amusing is a cunt.BusterBoy
- I'm amused.jagara
- And, apparently, also a cunt.jagara
- I'm also amused. In a world of heinous human beings everywhere, this is a pittance.CyBrainX
- I'm curious to know where your sense of mirth would draw the line, then — if a QBNer admitted fucking their daughter, would that be morally equidistant?Nairn
- It's ok in some cultures after all.Nairn
- maquito5
I flush the toilet before I've finished pissing
- soundofreason28
I'm renderedred.
- drgs4
I think this is the best song in the world
- It's up there for sure.
*raises fist in air, drops head, bops softly in the ever near futureNairn - https://youtu.be/Ls8…emphor
- It's up there for sure.
- 5timuli0
I was mid-wank on my lunch break when news broke about 9/11.
- did you lost it?oey
- I saw it through to the end. Once you fap, you can't stahp.5timuli
- That happened at 9am...imbecile
- You should rethink that statement.5timuli
- You've lived up to your name.CyBrainX
- look it up.
first impact: 8:46 a.m.
second impact: 9:03 a.m.imbecile - he was mid-fapping from 8:45 till lunch break?!oey
- LOLOLHayzilla
- Living in EuropeSimonFFM
- LOL!oey
- Imbecile — username checks out.5timuli
- Imbeciles inability to understand time zones is almost funnier than 5's post.Hayzilla
- I'm guessing he's in California or the UK.Hayzilla
- Now in CA. Left Scotland in 2006.5timuli
- ^ BOOM.Hayzilla
- GM27818
I was dating this woman, had intense feelings for her. Intelligent (full-stack web developer), model looks (looked like Aslaug in Vikings) and so much fun to be around. Felt like I won the lottery. Then she started acting off. She had low energy, would sleep in etc. She blamed it on being diabetic (this is true btw) so I didn't think too much of it.
Flash forward to almost a year in. She flipped out on me because she couldn't get ahold of me one day. I, as some know from the motorcycle thread, race bikes and couldn't exactly stop in the middle of a race to answer my phone and didn't get back to her til later that night. I tried calming her down when I called her back and she didn't want to hear it.
We left things in limbo as she blew me off. I thought she'd just calm down and we'd kiss and make up and go back to normal. After a few months of waiting for her to respond I just said "fuck it" and put myself back out there again.
Present day. I'm dating someone else and the sister of my previous gf contacts me. She explains that she finally got GF's phone unlocked and apparently she OD'd and died the week after our argument and that's why all my texts /emails went unanswered. She also said that her sister was pretty good at hiding the drug problem from me (huge understatement) but she'd had a history with it. (Side note: this doesn't explain why her stupid catty chickenhead friends didn't think to contact me but um...cool)
I have moments where I'm so furious at myself for my absolute naïveté not to see what was going on and heartbroken that I couldn't do anything to prevent her death. Meanwhile, I haven't discussed this with my current gf while I'm trying to make sense of it and I'm just doing my best to bottle all this shit up. Which, probably is the worst thing I can do but that's my default setting.
Anyways thanks for reading and sorry for the downer of a confession. :/
- jesus dude, that's fucked up._niko
- omfgmonospaced
- wow. hang in there man, you did no wrongernexbcn
- Tell your GF and explain how you dont know how to process but that you want her to know so shes not clueless when you are emotionally erratic.cannonball1978
- Thanks. I know if she wanted to do drugs and keeps it from me then what could I do but its a total mindfuck to think I got dumped when actually it was far worseGM278
- Heavy.
Feel for you, man! But like @ernexbcn said above, you did no wrong. Don't ever slip down the guilt/regret hallway; there's no exit down that path.Krassy - and now I'm grieving the loss and I didnt even know, let alone know about the funeral or any of the other stuff. Just UGHGM278
- < thisjagara
- I keep saying I should have just showed up at her place but at I respected her space and didn't want to be some asshole just banging on the door.GM278
- ^ DO NOT blame yourself for any of this, man. Seriously. Even if you can't help but feel some guilt, you have GOT to fight that feeling!Krassy
- ...from the story you tell here, it sounds like you are not responsible for her death. MUCH bigger/deeper issues caused it.Krassy
- it's not your fault. it really isn't. take good care of yourself!sarahfailin
- Dude. That’s so fucked up. But in no way is this your fault.Ramanisky2
- i don't think I feel guilty over her death...but that I found love and now need to grieve that loss in a different way than when i thought she'd dumped meGM278
- Want to repeat what everyone said. Not your fault. And you should open up to your current gf. It's good to have someone close to talk about it.pango
- it was not your decision, nor responsibility, to keep her alive.imbecile
- fuck this guilt, drinking works for it not against so good luck getting out of it. (don't do that)sted
- fuck her 'friends' for not contacting you, and letting this happen in the dark in the first place.inteliboy
- A lot to deal with, and I'm sorry you have this tale to tell. You're a good bloke, from the admitted-little I can tell.
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And +1 for ‘naïveté’Nairn - Sorry about that man. Take your time to grief. don't blâme yourself for this. Get support from your closest friends and gf. Get time for you.Salarrue
- It sounds cruel, but in the end, we are a tiny blob of living cells, alive for a mere fraction of time, held by gravity to a rock, orbiting a empty galaxy...shapesalad
- ...we're born, we mate, we die, that's life, It's short, enjoy it, if others leave before you, it's just how it played out. You've got your journey to follow.shapesalad
- dont go back in time and try to change things in your mind with evidence from the future - it will not help. it can take some time to heal wounds.api
- & take care how you tell (if you do) your new one about your loss. if your feelings where that strong, it could confuse her, so again, take care. all the best!api
- Fuck, what a story man. Yeah, not your fault. I can't imagine.DRIFTMONKEY
- I've been in similar situation. It's impossible not to blame yourself, but keep reminding yourself that it isn't, because it isn't.garbage
- "Troubled hearts map deserts, and they rarely do come back."garbage
- Looked like a slag in vikings?set
- drug addiction is an illness that makes people do crazy things and cause hurt for so many people. grieve as much as you need but don't blame yourself.lowimpakt
- aw fuck man :/ were there any moments where you thought "this is uncommon" (drug related) while you have been together?mekk
- No way... that's fucked up. Talk to us man. But in the meantime, I'd probably speak to you GF just like your previous GF should've spoken to you.Ianbolton
- DUDE... you are not responsible for someone else wellbeing... Tough has it is, it just prove your human BUT you never made her do what she did...necromation
- Ride them bikes, love your life and ride them bikes, oh and ride them bikes... Yes you heard me!necromation
- as usual, Set is here for your emotional support.
Don't keep this from your GF dude, if something big is bugging you, she deserves to know or she'll think it'sProjectile - shit dude, hang in there. She hide this from you, you sound like the person that would have helped if you had know.
Do talk to your GF, honesty is key.mugwart - Its a strange feeling having lost someone and only find out about it several month later. It suckspango
- Thanks all. Especially for not kicking me while I'm down. It's been rough.GM278
- mugwart7
Bit lame to write on a blog post but I have been practically bed ridden from severe depression, PTSD for two weeks, got one week off but panicking its not enough.
Feel weak and pathetic.
- Stay strong bro!
https://i.imgur.com/…utopian - Damn mugwort sorry to hear.
If you don’t mind me asking ...
where did the PTSD stem from??Ramanisky2 - like long abuse from family, ex wife abuse, extreme poverty and a lot of extreme work stress plus other stuff Thought it was only armed forces that get itmugwart
- thanks all though, means a lotmugwart
- Sorry to hear that mug.
Sending good vibes your way.Ramanisky2 - tamugwart
- hey man, good vibes and angels on your body!renderedred
- mug feel better soon. This will pass as well... rest up. do the best you can.notype
- @work stress. maybe you can change something here in the long run. but for now, get better and take your time!api
- that sucks. try for a jog or exercise? obvious, but helps.inteliboy
- Talking about is an important step into the right direction. Even if it's to a bunch of QbNoobers. Tell us, if we can help you somehow.Longcopylover
- ^ thanks. Not sure its something that can be helped. Need money and time to get out of this. Struggling with both!
appreciate this thoughmugwart - cut yourself some slack. you put a lot of pressure on yourself to be creative/productive on your work breakGnash
- forgive yourself.Gnash
- stop judging yourself.Gnash
- stop future-trippingGnash
- accept where you are with humble thankfulnessGnash
- Stay strong bro!