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- shapesalad0
I've taken a full time job at a bank that pays really well and has a great package... and I'm not happy. Really not happy. As it's in London.
I applied for a similar job in Lisbon, but didn't even get an interview. Sucks. Really Sucks.
- I better not lose this job in Mar 2019 when Brexit crashes the economy. Fucking hell, I'm really starting to hate UK, what a cunt of a country.shapesalad
- And it's bloody freezing....shapesalad
- /rant over.shapesalad
- Yeah, I feel for you surrounded by so many Brits, they're something else... Stay strong.robotron3k
- First World Problems threadchukkaphob
- Yeah - London's changing fast. Only a handful of good pockets left and they are going down fastmugwart
- I'm planning on renting a super cheap crap little room in a flat share near to the office. So I can avoid tube...shapesalad
- And save 75% of my salary. Then quit as soon as I have enough to buy a little house without mortgage.shapesalad
- ... hopefully in Portugal.shapesalad
- Banks are one of the main cuntributers to the cuntiness. Enjoy retirement.MrT
- you can save money? Any other jobs going at your place ;-)mugwart
- if in bank your city central - any cheap rooms?mugwart
- Yeah some rooms going in the slums near old street, £150 pw, 5 strangers to a toilet. Doing this at the age of 40. Bring it on.shapesalad
- ouch ... Had to do it at 36. Not much fun.
Make sure its not a sub-sub-letted flat. I fell accidentally into a scam few years back. Things get messy fast.mugwart - anyways if you can handle this for a few years and you have a place in mind for life back in Portugal then its not so bad.mugwart
- Yeah.. it's not a pleasure and I'm double checking the flat agents. No choice. Either this or spend 75% of my salary on rent and never buy.shapesalad
- Or commuting hell.. but even that is expensive and not sure how I'd get by after season ticket + need a car to get to station if I get an affordable house.shapesalad
- From all angles London is an expensive city unless you bought years ago, won lottery, have uber rich parents.shapesalad
- ^ this. Sad but truemugwart
- Krassy6
I like "Toxic" by Britney
- To this day I don't think I've heard it but I love this to death.
https://www.youtube.…CyBrainX - ^ great one!Krassy
- and I mean the production and beats in "Toxic" and not the video or her singing or the lyrics, etc.Krassy
- All this sounds so..."toxic" to discuss and even write about. Epic confession, indeed.Krassy
- yeah the production on that is A+inteliboy
- To this day I don't think I've heard it but I love this to death.
- Krassy3
^ i liked my own post
- maquito5
I flush the toilet before I've finished pissing
- maquito1
I used to eat bouillon cubes as a snack in my in my adolescence.
- Ew :)jagara
- ¯\_(ツ)_/¯maquito
- beef, chicken, vegetable? Also, WTF?
Mouth-gravy!Fax_Benson - anyone. Yup. Horrible.maquito
- I used to nibble oxo cubes until I'd OD on salt.shapesalad
- I still do on occasion! My new vice in this regard is tweaking out on this shit when i cook.. https://www.ocado.co…Nairn
- wow, we could join a club of monosodium glutamate junkiesmaquito
- BusterBoy4
I hide biscuits so my kids can't eat them. But I think my son has found my fucking hiding spot!
- hotroddy-6
I piss into the sink on airplane bathrooms. (toilet is too low and always make a mess)
- Awe man not cool.monospaced
- fuck you!BusterBoy
- Wow. If you're not joking, that fairly comprehensively describes everything anyone would ever need to know about you. What a nasty person.Nairn
- finally, an actual confession. upvotedGnash
- How tall are you? Surely it's easier to piss into a toilet than a sink? Mucky sod.Fax_Benson
- what a nasty person!chukkaphob
- lolset
- I enjoy how offended people are at thisset
- @set same, but also disturbedKrassy
- Don't listen to them. KEEP DOING IT!maquito
- probably more common than we think. thankfully i've honed the art of touching nothing in pub. bathrooms.notype
- Lol... best confession yet :)PonyBoy
- ^ you misspelled *worstchukkaphob
- Airplanes are not made for tall people, take a boatOBBTKN
- LOL. Keep it real Roddy!Hayzilla
- geez.lol i'm not an animal. I soap down the sink after I'm done.hotroddy
- Your filthy ass reminded me of this article I read last year:
https://www.google.c…futurefood - The tank system for drinking water is fucked, imagine the water system used to wash your hands.futurefood
- Piss like a woman instead. Sit.jagara
- Anyone that thinks this is amusing is a cunt.BusterBoy
- I'm amused.jagara
- And, apparently, also a cunt.jagara
- I'm also amused. In a world of heinous human beings everywhere, this is a pittance.CyBrainX
- I'm curious to know where your sense of mirth would draw the line, then — if a QBNer admitted fucking their daughter, would that be morally equidistant?Nairn
- It's ok in some cultures after all.Nairn
- soundofreason28
I'm renderedred.
- shapesalad5
I use my little finger to open the public bathroom doors upon exiting, and where possible use a piece of toilet paper to touch flush, door lock, taps, doors.
My little fingers are now super strong from pulling open bathroom doors.
I then try to spend the rest of the day not touching my face or anything with my little fingers as they are now condemned and need either disinfecting when back home or amputating.
- http://nukethefridge…Gnash
- Good. Never to know when hotroddy is around.notype
- greyandred7
I'm a 40 year old recently single dad of a 2 year old, and have stumbled into in a strange relationship with his babysitter - a 20 year old. I mean, she's absolutely beautiful, and she's the one fighting for this to happen between us, but I'm painfully aware we have nothing in common but a physical attraction.
She's of a totally different generation, really sweet and means well, but I feel so guilty. What the fuck am I doing QBN?
- pics?drgs
- Did you mean 'what the fuck am I doing ON QBN, when I'm single & I have an attractive 20 year old lusting after me?'?Wolfboy
- Wear protection.zarkonite
- beware the loonies.Gnash
- Wait until she's 21 to decide anything, until then hit the gym and carry on...robotron3k
- Go for it.babydick
- just tell her that. I just feel physical attracted. if it's okay for her and she doesn't have expectations then go for it. she might teach you somethingoey
- https://www.youtube.…Gnash
- When I was 32 I met a 20 year old. She was in love, pushing, dreaming of marriage and babies.. I was confused like you. Eventually stayed friends.shapesalad
- She was a bikini model. So it was hard to stay friends... but glad it's like this now.shapesalad
- Girls that age want to feel grown up, to stand out from their peers, have their beauty and worth confirmed.shapesalad
- They're not really fully aware of what it all means, and they will regret rushing into it...shapesalad
- At 20 I was still figuring out my left from my right foot.notype
- Walk away.notype
- Gnash awful presentation... i did laugh thoughnotype
- Seriously? Bang her for a while...STORM305
- Fuck walking away. Fuck her. FUCK ITTTTTset
- I’ve been totally honest about my concerns, and she just doesn’t seem to have any at all. But why would she, she’s so younggreyandred
- Am keeping it as casual as possible until I sort my head out, but can’t see it working long termgreyandred
- @Shapesalad: Wise words. But yeah, I’m finding it confusing too – she’s distractingly hot :-Dgreyandred
- Appreciate the LOLS as well. Thanks QBNgreyandred
- I was 35 and dated a 21 year old ... we are engaged to marry.mugwart
- be open and honest and for fuck sake enjoy the fantasy!!mugwart
- The maturity of a 20 y-o versus a 40 years is very different. beware man.Bennn
- Good to hear Mugwart, congratsgreyandred
- I mean she's visual perfection in every sense and I feel incredibly lucky, especially coming out of a major breakupgreyandred
- Yeah Bennn, that's it man.greyandred
- Well, enjoy, give it time. Try a holiday abroad, holidays are always a good test.shapesalad
- Too dangerous.SimonFFM
- ^ thisGnash
- its okay. do it and make sure expectations are setcannonball1978
- The red flag for me was that she's "fighting for this to happen"... what? Sounds like you're fulfilling your own needs and could give 2 shits about her.notype
- Sounds like it'll be a mess. We'll be here to make some jokes about your situation in a month. Just don't have her open up QBN on your phone hehhehnotype
- Tread carefully for your kid's sake. A good friend once said "Ask yourself...is she the future mother of your child?"Gucci
- In this case you already have one, so if it's just a bit of fun, enjoy. If it becomes something else...well...that's where shit gets messy.Gucci
- @notype yeah, doesn't sound too good when you put it like that. I'm apprehensive to say the least.greyandred
- @Gucci Good perspective, thanks mangreyandred
- I'm dating 20 y/o's that are nearly as mature as me. Don't care if that says more about me or them, bc the dynamic suits me. Not for everyone of course.SteveJobs
- But I'd argue women change most between early to mid 20's, so serious *might* be tough depending on how hot she is vs. how much she's looking for marriage.SteveJobs
- go for it, you only live once. no Regerts!_niko
- SteveJobs how old are you 22-23?
its pretty rare to find a person without any bigger issues who has a developed (mature ) personality at the age of 20 (or 23).sted - Don't get her pregnant. AND please don't let your child see you two together. Other than that, have fun.sea_sea
- talk to her, see how it goes, protect your kid. Go slow (if possible!) as it might impact your kids. Seriously if your honest and she is and you both enjoy eachmugwart
- other its just a part of the relationship. Its only a good thing for us. Forces me to remain young and it might force her to think mature. Meet in the middlemugwart
- if she likes your kids and still wants you then its a great sign. As long as its not a 'green card' job. First think i asked myself was how would my kid likemugwart
- her. 3 years on and they are doing homework and he has a genuine positive female figure in his life.
These things can work out.mugwart - don't always over think it. Again if you both brutally honest its only a good thing.mugwart
- I assume that's related https://www.qbn.com/…zaq
- @drgs LOLuan
- so you took the attractive babysitter and now you are in trouble. either way it sounds like you need a new babysitter soon. its your turn, i dont judge!api
- I can already smell the drama awaiting you.utopian
- If you get together, and in a years time you're looking for a new baby sitter, I can only imagine the look she gives you when you hire a hot 20 y/o.shapesalad
- ^ just get her to recruit the next one. As long as she goes on qualifications, simples!mugwart
- Sorry bro.
"Half your age + 7"VectorMasked - you're a dad.
my guess is her dad is probably fairly close to YOUR age... picture having a conversation with him...exador1 - If my daughter suddenly started dating a guy THAT much older, I'd have some fucking problems with it...exador1
- did you hire your babysitter from tinder?pinkfloyd
- Lol Vectormaskedpango
- MEDIOCRE!!!DRIFTMONKEY
- Ah, sorry I did not read ‚single dad‘. Wondered why everyone said do it. You’re free so yes, why even ask! Enjoy!SimonFFM
- Lol @pink... If you're single, why not? But, take care of kids; if things between you two start going bad...OBBTKN
- Tread lightly. We’ve all seen bitter 40 year olds who were treated without the respect they think they deserved at 20! Do the right thing.Ianbolton
- i've been there, spent some good times, but it's a dead end. No matter how mature, the age gap is there.ApeRobot
- Congrats! Is she Polish?Hayzilla
- :DDsted
- She was born in 1998...
Probably barely remembers 911...
O_Opango - She was born in 1998...
Probably barely remembers Google...
O_Outopian - Also.... Pic or BS!pango
- pics or it didn't happenautoflavour
- notype0
My family is local, friends mostly out of town. Though local community had a gathering. Brother, via text on Monday, invited me over for Thursday’s Turkey dinner.
I ended up spending Thursday solo. Took a stroll late afternoon. Rarely have I ever spent this holiday, in my adult life, like a “normal” American would.
Although I’ll go in on Monday and smile and say it was wonderful. As per usual. Win though, no hangover.
I do hope to, some day, spend this holiday like a normal American.
- ...even in all of its fuckedupness.notype
- these forced gatherings are overrated.shapesalad
- I know. Kind of feel good to “follow” the masses sometimes.notype
- mugwart7
Bit lame to write on a blog post but I have been practically bed ridden from severe depression, PTSD for two weeks, got one week off but panicking its not enough.
Feel weak and pathetic.
- Stay strong bro!
https://i.imgur.com/…utopian - Damn mugwort sorry to hear.
If you don’t mind me asking ...
where did the PTSD stem from??Ramanisky2 - like long abuse from family, ex wife abuse, extreme poverty and a lot of extreme work stress plus other stuff Thought it was only armed forces that get itmugwart
- thanks all though, means a lotmugwart
- Sorry to hear that mug.
Sending good vibes your way.Ramanisky2 - tamugwart
- hey man, good vibes and angels on your body!renderedred
- mug feel better soon. This will pass as well... rest up. do the best you can.notype
- @work stress. maybe you can change something here in the long run. but for now, get better and take your time!api
- that sucks. try for a jog or exercise? obvious, but helps.inteliboy
- Talking about is an important step into the right direction. Even if it's to a bunch of QbNoobers. Tell us, if we can help you somehow.Longcopylover
- ^ thanks. Not sure its something that can be helped. Need money and time to get out of this. Struggling with both!
appreciate this thoughmugwart - cut yourself some slack. you put a lot of pressure on yourself to be creative/productive on your work breakGnash
- forgive yourself.Gnash
- stop judging yourself.Gnash
- stop future-trippingGnash
- accept where you are with humble thankfulnessGnash
- Stay strong bro!
- jagara7
Grew up without a TV. Used to steal change from my moms purse every week. Then buy candy, and go to the library and read comic books for 5 hours straight.
- ...at age 6-10jagara
- Well, looks like we got ourselves a reader.Morning_star
- do you still read for 5 hours straight?Krassy
- No :)jagara
- GM27818
I was dating this woman, had intense feelings for her. Intelligent (full-stack web developer), model looks (looked like Aslaug in Vikings) and so much fun to be around. Felt like I won the lottery. Then she started acting off. She had low energy, would sleep in etc. She blamed it on being diabetic (this is true btw) so I didn't think too much of it.
Flash forward to almost a year in. She flipped out on me because she couldn't get ahold of me one day. I, as some know from the motorcycle thread, race bikes and couldn't exactly stop in the middle of a race to answer my phone and didn't get back to her til later that night. I tried calming her down when I called her back and she didn't want to hear it.
We left things in limbo as she blew me off. I thought she'd just calm down and we'd kiss and make up and go back to normal. After a few months of waiting for her to respond I just said "fuck it" and put myself back out there again.
Present day. I'm dating someone else and the sister of my previous gf contacts me. She explains that she finally got GF's phone unlocked and apparently she OD'd and died the week after our argument and that's why all my texts /emails went unanswered. She also said that her sister was pretty good at hiding the drug problem from me (huge understatement) but she'd had a history with it. (Side note: this doesn't explain why her stupid catty chickenhead friends didn't think to contact me but um...cool)
I have moments where I'm so furious at myself for my absolute naïveté not to see what was going on and heartbroken that I couldn't do anything to prevent her death. Meanwhile, I haven't discussed this with my current gf while I'm trying to make sense of it and I'm just doing my best to bottle all this shit up. Which, probably is the worst thing I can do but that's my default setting.
Anyways thanks for reading and sorry for the downer of a confession. :/
- jesus dude, that's fucked up._niko
- omfgmonospaced
- wow. hang in there man, you did no wrongernexbcn
- Tell your GF and explain how you dont know how to process but that you want her to know so shes not clueless when you are emotionally erratic.cannonball1978
- Thanks. I know if she wanted to do drugs and keeps it from me then what could I do but its a total mindfuck to think I got dumped when actually it was far worseGM278
- Heavy.
Feel for you, man! But like @ernexbcn said above, you did no wrong. Don't ever slip down the guilt/regret hallway; there's no exit down that path.Krassy - and now I'm grieving the loss and I didnt even know, let alone know about the funeral or any of the other stuff. Just UGHGM278
- < thisjagara
- I keep saying I should have just showed up at her place but at I respected her space and didn't want to be some asshole just banging on the door.GM278
- ^ DO NOT blame yourself for any of this, man. Seriously. Even if you can't help but feel some guilt, you have GOT to fight that feeling!Krassy
- ...from the story you tell here, it sounds like you are not responsible for her death. MUCH bigger/deeper issues caused it.Krassy
- it's not your fault. it really isn't. take good care of yourself!sarahfailin
- Dude. That’s so fucked up. But in no way is this your fault.Ramanisky2
- i don't think I feel guilty over her death...but that I found love and now need to grieve that loss in a different way than when i thought she'd dumped meGM278
- Want to repeat what everyone said. Not your fault. And you should open up to your current gf. It's good to have someone close to talk about it.pango
- it was not your decision, nor responsibility, to keep her alive.imbecile
- fuck this guilt, drinking works for it not against so good luck getting out of it. (don't do that)sted
- fuck her 'friends' for not contacting you, and letting this happen in the dark in the first place.inteliboy
- A lot to deal with, and I'm sorry you have this tale to tell. You're a good bloke, from the admitted-little I can tell.
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And +1 for ‘naïveté’Nairn - Sorry about that man. Take your time to grief. don't blâme yourself for this. Get support from your closest friends and gf. Get time for you.Salarrue
- It sounds cruel, but in the end, we are a tiny blob of living cells, alive for a mere fraction of time, held by gravity to a rock, orbiting a empty galaxy...shapesalad
- ...we're born, we mate, we die, that's life, It's short, enjoy it, if others leave before you, it's just how it played out. You've got your journey to follow.shapesalad
- dont go back in time and try to change things in your mind with evidence from the future - it will not help. it can take some time to heal wounds.api
- & take care how you tell (if you do) your new one about your loss. if your feelings where that strong, it could confuse her, so again, take care. all the best!api
- Fuck, what a story man. Yeah, not your fault. I can't imagine.DRIFTMONKEY
- I've been in similar situation. It's impossible not to blame yourself, but keep reminding yourself that it isn't, because it isn't.garbage
- "Troubled hearts map deserts, and they rarely do come back."garbage
- Looked like a slag in vikings?set
- drug addiction is an illness that makes people do crazy things and cause hurt for so many people. grieve as much as you need but don't blame yourself.lowimpakt
- aw fuck man :/ were there any moments where you thought "this is uncommon" (drug related) while you have been together?mekk
- No way... that's fucked up. Talk to us man. But in the meantime, I'd probably speak to you GF just like your previous GF should've spoken to you.Ianbolton
- DUDE... you are not responsible for someone else wellbeing... Tough has it is, it just prove your human BUT you never made her do what she did...necromation
- Ride them bikes, love your life and ride them bikes, oh and ride them bikes... Yes you heard me!necromation
- as usual, Set is here for your emotional support.
Don't keep this from your GF dude, if something big is bugging you, she deserves to know or she'll think it'sProjectile - shit dude, hang in there. She hide this from you, you sound like the person that would have helped if you had know.
Do talk to your GF, honesty is key.mugwart - Its a strange feeling having lost someone and only find out about it several month later. It suckspango
- Thanks all. Especially for not kicking me while I'm down. It's been rough.GM278
- Nairn2
I'm 41 years old but I just had to check YouTube to get a how-to tie a Half Windsor knot in a tie.
Aside from two occasions, this is perhaps the third time I've worn a tie in the last 30 years
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(It's for some themed event this evening - I'm barely themed and I already feel like a total twat — if I'm lucky when I'm going through town I'll just look like a mismatched nerd or, at best, a hipster. Nobody cares, of course.
- I actually *almost* had it on first attempt before resorting to internet — muscle memory from being a <10 year old kid wearing a tie at schoolNairn
- Sub-confession — when I was 8, I had an elasticated tie.Nairn
- Im with ya --
Had a clip on tie as a kid. And still have to check youtube for a refresher when I throw on a tie now. ohwelp.desmo - Why the half? Full windsor 4 life.section_014
- over, under, over, up and through. thats how i remember to tie school tie.microkorg
- I'm 42 and i never tied a tie in my life.jagara
- mugwart3
Pango beat me at chess ....
- drgs4
I think this is the best song in the world
- It's up there for sure.
*raises fist in air, drops head, bops softly in the ever near futureNairn - https://youtu.be/Ls8…emphor
- It's up there for sure.
- prophetone1
I bought, am now listening to an old secret fav, Castles in the Sky
#tranceoccasionally
- trance sauce!!!
https://www.youtube.…prophetone - The Streets!Krassy
- Yeah new stuff incoming - call me in the morning is back to mike's roots, me likesprophetone
- trance sauce!!!